Mega-Guide to Fisting and 26+ Huge Dildos, Compared!

My vagi­na is made of the same mate­r­i­al as Mary Poppins’ purse.

My vagi­na is made of the same mate­r­i­al as Mary Poppins’ purse. A soda can fits inside. Yet, a recent part­ner had a mere sin­gle fin­ger inside me when he said, “Wow, you’re tight.”

He had no idea that he was about to have his whole hand inside me.

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How I personally feel about vaginal fisting

Fisting gives me some of the most intense orgasms my body is capa­ble of, back-​to-​back, seem­ing­ly indef­i­nite­ly. Pillows for scream­ing into are high­ly recommended.

I’ve walked the talk so many times that I keep for­get­ting how this het­ero­nor­ma­tive cul­ture views fisting.

To me, it’s not about hole-​punching and destruc­tion as an extreme sport. Instead, it’s a nat­ur­al and high­ly inti­mate pro­gres­sion of fin­ger­ing. My vagi­na doesn’t “take” a fist; it con­sumes as it goes into “crush and cum” mode.

And I want oth­ers to expe­ri­ence the mar­vel of fist­ing as well.

"My vagi­na doesn’t ‘take’ a fist; it con­sumes as it goes into ‘crush and cum' mode."

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What to expect in this guide to fisting and giant body-safe dildos

This guide to fist­ing will dis­cuss the opti­mal mind­set for fist­ing prepa­ra­tion, undo­ing the stig­ma and shame, tech­nique, and, of course, body-​safe sil­i­cone fist­ing warm-​up dildos!

My focus is on vagi­nal fist­ing, but those seek­ing infor­ma­tion on butt stuff may nev­er­the­less find parts of this post help­ful. I’m also not going to delve toooo too deep into the fan­ta­sy dil­do realm; that’s a top­ic that mer­its a whole oth­er post.

It’s a looooong guide, so be sure to pause and read through the table of con­tents if it’s your first time here.

The modifiers, “silicone” and “body-​safe” are important here.

Silicone is non­porous for our pur­pos­es, and you can boil and bleach such toys to san­i­tize them. While sil­i­cone dil­dos are more expen­sive upfront (com­pared to PVC and jel­ly), non­porous dil­dos made of glass, steel, and sil­i­cone are far eas­i­er to care for.

More impor­tant­ly, with prop­er main­te­nance, sil­i­cone dil­dos will not cause you gyne­co­log­i­cal harm for some­thing like a chem­i­cal burn or micro­bial infec­tion. Yeah, jel­ly dil­dos can leech tox­ins, and porous mate­ri­als can house germs under the sur­face. Silicone dil­dos are inert for our pur­pos­es. I care about your health and well-being.

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Combating the stigma around fisting

Let’s lay down the foundation.

How can some­one feel emo­tion­al­ly safe when try­ing fist­ing? I don’t mean con­cerns about phys­i­cal dam­age (though we’ll get to that, too).

I’m talk­ing about the shame and stig­ma, as some­one famil­iar with the unso­licit­ed com­men­tary about the pre­sumed state of my holes.

“Let’s just say she’s ‘open’ to new things.”

“How does her part­ner even feel plea­sure after being stretched out like that?”

I’ve heard it all before.

My cur­rent phi­los­o­phy around big dil­dos and fist­ing is, “I say noth­ing [to the haters]. I just keep hav­ing a good time.”

Really, it’s okay. I’ve had vagi­nal inter­course imme­di­ate­ly after fist­ing or using a huge dil­do. My vagi­na has (unin­ten­tion­al­ly) cracked a partner’s fin­ger. And I know that the pelvic floor, as with any oth­er mus­cles, can be strong and flex­i­ble.

See also: 4 Commandments For Size Royalty

All good times and no harm done; my vagi­na is still “tight” after fisting.

But I under­stand that the insen­si­tive com­ments may cut deep­er for my read­ers. On that front, I’d like to remind you that fist­ing isn’t all-or-nothing.

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Long-term habits for fisting preparation

Use pro­gres­sive­ly girthi­er dil­dos or more fin­gers, lit­tle by lit­tle — not just for phys­i­cal prepa­ra­tion, but to ease your mind and gath­er evi­dence that your vagi­na is high­ly resilient.

Try a slight­ly big­ger dil­do for some ses­sions. Use your usu­al dil­do or have inter­course for oth­er ses­sions. Mix it up, and observe for your­self over time that, “Yeah, I’m actu­al­ly not get­ting loose from using this big dil­do.” Then rinse and repeat with more mas­sive sex toys at the speed of comfort.

Your state of mind is one of the most crit­i­cal parts of get­ting ready for fist­ing. The same applies if you’re scared of being desen­si­tized by strong vibra­tors. Been there and done that.

I’d also encour­age you to do pelvic floor exer­cis­es. Cycles of clench­ing and relax­ing your vagi­na are both use­ful for fist­ing prepa­ra­tion. This sug­ges­tion isn’t just about stay­ing “tight,” but also:

• Conscious aware­ness and con­trol of what your pelvic floor is doing
• Strength train­ing can con­tribute to flexibility

The linked arti­cle is about ham­strings, but I hope you see my point about the elas­tic­i­ty of the pelvic floor in fist­ing preparation.

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Mindset reminders when you’re about to be fisted

Flexibility is cul­ti­vat­ed over time; your body and mind learn that it is safe to unwind. That applies to the pelvic floor mus­cles dur­ing fist­ing, too.

Relaxation is the name of the game:

• Don’t try fist­ing on a stress­ful day
• Schedule more than enough time
• Maybe try some CBD lube
• Give your­self a serene environment
• Go slow
• Have a full-​body mas­sage and a few orgasms first, if you can

Also, remem­ber that if you can’t go all the way, that’s cool, too. While I under­stand that being fist­ed for the first time is a sig­nif­i­cant mile­stone, I think hav­ing fun (and stay­ing safe!) through­out the process should come first. Listen to your body’s cues about what you can handle.

Slight dis­com­fort is nor­mal, but shoot­ing pain isn’t. If it’s hard for you to decide where to draw the line, remem­ber that you can pull the fist or dil­do back to your com­fort zone. Pause. Attempt to increase depth again lat­er. Again, hav­ing fun should be the top priority. 

Reserve fist­ing for solo ses­sions and part­ners atten­tive to your com­fort and plea­sure. Vaginally con­sum­ing a hand is a big deal.

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Fisting techniques and general guidelines

Now we’re get­ting to the fist­ing tech­nique. It’s prob­a­bly what you orig­i­nal­ly came here for, yeah?

Porn to learn about fisting

If you’re look­ing for somewhat-​educational porn, CrashPad’s Guide to Fisting is a great place to start. I can’t spread enough pos­i­tiv­i­ty about it (but I cer­tain­ly tried in my review)!

CrashPad’s Guide to Fisting gives you:

• A visu­al overview of how to tran­si­tion from fin­ger­ing to fisting
• Clips of mul­ti­ple fist­ing scenes of vary­ing inten­si­ties, like a pornception
• Fisting depict­ed as a rec­i­p­ro­cal act of intimacy
• Beautiful humans enjoy­ing themselves!

Fisting can be as sen­su­al and sweet as you want it to be, and I think Lorelei Lee, Beretta James, and Shine Louise Houston do a beau­ti­ful job demon­strat­ing that.

You can watch CrashPad’s Guide to Fisting by:

• Renting for $5.95 for 48 hours
• Buying it for $8.33 to stream indefinitely
• Subscribing to PinkLabel​.TV, which allows you access to a vast library of oth­er indie porn flicks, with or with­out fisting 
  • Shown below: a still from Fisting Club Episode 1

Bellesa Plus also has a few eth­i­cal porn flicks fea­tur­ing fist­ing. They’ve dubbed them­selves “the Netflix of porn.”

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Before stretching the limits

I rec­om­mend incor­po­rat­ing cli­toral stim­u­la­tion before and dur­ing giant inser­tions. Have a few orgasms first, if you can.

Ideal candidates for pairing internal and external stimulation include:

• Mini-wand mas­sagers
• Bullet vibra­tors (We-​Vibe Tango X, Hot Octopuss Amo, BMS Swan Rose)
• Low-​profile air pulse stim­u­la­tors (Dame Aer, We-​Vibe Melt)

They’re espe­cial­ly remark­able because they don’t take much space on the vul­va, leav­ing plen­ty of room for a big insertable.

If you’d pre­fer to use a full-​sized wand like the Doxy Die Cast or Magic Wand Plus, a vul­va mas­sage can still increase blood flow and help you relax.

Then, use your line-​up of big dil­dos to warm up to fist­ing. I’ll save that part (the best part!) of the guide for last.

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Best lube to use for fisting

You’ll want to use a lot of lube for fist­ing, espe­cial­ly along the front wall, to reduce fric­tion on the urethra.

The ide­al per­son­al lubri­cant for fist­ing is prob­a­bly water-​based with a thick, gel-​like con­sis­ten­cy. Hybrid lubes (which have a bit of sil­i­cone) also fit the bill. They’re a nice bal­ance between long-​lasting and easy to wash off.

Some of my favorite fisting lubes include:

• Sliquid Sassy, padded with extra cot­ton cellulose
• Gleam lube by Velvet Co.
• Wicked Simply Aqua Jelle
• Sensuva Erosense Hybrid (shown in the pic­ture above)
• Wicked Simply Hybrid Jelle

While you can use oil-​based lube inter­nal­ly, I wouldn’t put it in my vagi­na. Everyone’s vagi­nal micro­bio­me is dif­fer­ent, though some users may find that an oil-​based lube is more com­pat­i­ble with theirs. As for sil­i­cone lube, I find it too thin for fist­ing, and even worse, it can degrade the integri­ty of my favorite (sil­i­cone) fist­ing warm-​up dil­dos. Plus, it’s on the pricey side.

Lotions & potions for relaxation and arousal

On anoth­er note, CBD lube can help for fist­ing warm-​up, but I don’t think it’s thick enough for the main event. Try rub­bing some CBD-​infused lubri­cant (I like GoLove and Dani Pepper) on the vul­va 10 min­utes before you start penetration.

Also, con­sid­er an arousal balm on the out­side. I like the one by Bijoux Indiscrets a lot; it’s slight­ly warm­ing but noth­ing too wild­ly tingly.

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Hand position for fisting

Fisting starts one fin­ger at a time and ramps up to a duck-​billed hand.

The fister’s fin­gers are straight while their thumb is tucked against the palm. Hand size mat­ters when fist­ing, but so does fold­ing and stream­lin­ing it.

(The receiver’s body size also mat­ters, but prob­a­bly not as much as you think. I’m mere­ly 5’1” tall.)

Once your hand has been inside your partner’s hole for a hot minute, clos­ing the fist is option­al. Bex Caputo had more to say about it on The Dildorks pod­cast. I don’t par­tic­u­lar­ly care for a closed fist inside me.

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Go slowly. Stop when you need to

However slow you think fist­ing prepa­ra­tion needs to be, go even slow­er. We’re talk­ing mere mil­lime­ters at a time and some­times not even mov­ing one’s hand at all.

It goes a long way to keep the hand or fist­ing warm-​up dil­do sta­tion­ary while the receiv­er clench­es and relax­es. Go in a few more mil­lime­ters. Pause. Twist and swiv­el slight­ly for a bit. Make tee­ny, tiny thrusts. Repeat the cycle. Hold. Push. Swivel and rotate. Pause. Hold. And so on.

While the fis­ter is doing that, I’d rec­om­mend the receiv­er do cycles of clench­ing and relax­ing. Squeeze the pelvic floor mus­cles while the hand is motion­less to reaf­firm to your body that it’s safe and can han­dle the stretch, and relax while the top­ping part­ner push­es or turns their hand. Also, remem­ber to take big, slow breaths through the whole process.

Many read­ers also asked how to han­dle pres­sure on the ure­thra when fist­ing. I don’t have a real solu­tion for every­one deal­ing with it, but I’ll share what helped me:

• Using soft­er dil­dos with more tapered tips (noth­ing super firm or blunt) for warm-up
• Tilting toward the back wall (and away from the front wall)
• Ceasing move­ment at the first sign of dis­com­fort. You don’t have to end the scene right away, but if you pro­ceed, at least hold the insertable in place and clench around it for a while. Then push in slight­ly fur­ther while relaxing.
• Recognize that lev­el­ing up to girthy dil­dos and fists may take months or even years. It used to be that a 2.1” thick vibra­tor would pull against my ure­thra on the way in, but that’s not the case any­more. Give it time.

Getting knuck­les past the pubic bone is the most chal­leng­ing part. Again, hand size mat­ters, but the abil­i­ty to fold one’s hand and straight­en knuck­les is even more crit­i­cal. After that, every­thing more or less gets sucked in. 

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Okay, we’re in. Now what?

Continue doing small move­ments for as long as it feels good to both of you. Slowly expand the range of motion, whether that’s thrust­ing, turn­ing, or “come hith­er” bending.

One sug­ges­tion: fist with your palm fac­ing their front wall. Bend your fin­gers back and forth. Or revolve them in cir­cles to play with the cervix or A‑spot.

If they pre­fer G‑spot stim­u­la­tion, turn your hand in the oppo­site direc­tion: palm towards the back­side. Focus on the “out” stroke and pull your knuck­les against the G‑spot. (Think of this eroge­nous zone as the dip just slight­ly past the pubic bone.)

If you close your fist, remem­ber to straight­en your hand again before pulling it out.

Congratulations! Now you know the basics of fist­ing tech­niques. Let’s start shop­ping for fist­ing prepa­ra­tion dildos!

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Using a big dildo to prepare for fisting

For expe­ri­enced play­ers, fist­ing might be a straight shot from 1–2‑3–4 fin­gers, then thumb.

If you’re new to fist­ing, though, the giver’s hand more than like­ly will get cramped and sore from all the squeez­ing around it. Let’s give cred­it for their ath­leti­cism, too.

Fisting warm-​up dil­dos lit­er­al­ly take off the pressure.

Here’s my categorization of the best dildos for fisting preparation:

1. Pre-​warm-​ups - Thick dil­dos that are above aver­age but still very much in the realm of a nor­mal human penis
2. Tapers - They’re more pointy and start super slim but ramp up
3. Off-​label use — Wands and plugs prob­a­bly weren’t ini­tial­ly made for vagi­nal inser­tion, but I do what I want.
4. OMGs - Bigger dil­dos with rough­ly soda can thick­ness. These can feel good against my cervix, depend­ing on squishiness.
5. OMFGs — A self-​explanatory next step up
6. “Okay, too much for me, but you do you” — Dildos that make me want to be nice to moth­ers every­where for giv­ing life.

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Factors in choosing a big dildo: size, firmness, and more

Here’s how I’d sum up picking the right dildo size:

• 1.25” diam­e­ter is on the small side of average
• 1.4 to 1.5” is about standard
• 1.75” diam­e­ter is where a lot of shops would say size queen ter­ri­to­ry starts
• 2” tends to be the cut­off after which big dil­dos are con­sid­ered a fetish
• 2.1” is the diam­e­ter of the top of a soda can
• 2.6” is the diam­e­ter across the mid­dle of a soda can

Shown to the right is a pair of calipers mea­sur­ing the shaft diam­e­ter of the Uberrime Amante, which is slight­ly big­ger than aver­age in girth.

Extreme big dildos are super intense, as you can imagine.

Once I go past the 2.1” diam­e­ter mark, my G‑spot and inter­nal cli­toris are bul­lied. I must orgasm when there’s that much pres­sure against them. Sometimes, with soft­er or more tapered mod­els, I can get cervix or A‑spot stim­u­la­tion, too.

Girth isn’t the only thing that matters in a fisting warm-​up dildo, though.

So does cur­va­ture. Bent toys, for exam­ple, tend to tar­get the A‑spot and G‑spot. That’s ide­al for hav­ing some fun before you even attempt to insert a whole hand.

Length also mat­ters in dil­do selec­tion. Even if you’re not insert­ing all of a dildo’s shaft, it’s still use­ful. You get more con­trol of where the tip is angled. So if you want ample front wall stim­u­la­tion or you want more of a han­dle for reach, a dil­do longer than 6” is ideal.

I’ve also used a cheap shore durom­e­ter to mea­sure silicone’s hardness.

Firm single-​density dil­dos feel more intense than squishy ones, and dual-​density dil­dos offer you the best of both worlds. They have a firm core for aim­ing, but their soft tips are gen­tle against the cervix. Also notable: soft­er dil­dos won’t drag against the ure­thra as much.

These shore hard­ness read­ings I took weren’t an exact sci­ence. The durom­e­ter I used doesn’t reg­is­ter the full spec­trum of sil­i­cone den­si­ties I have on hand. Readings also var­ied depend­ing on the con­tours where I stuck the durometer’s pin. As such, take these firm­ness rat­ings with a pinch of salt. They’re not exact; they’re a gen­er­al guide­line for comparison.

Got it? On to the actu­al toys themselves.

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Best sex toys for fisting preparation

These are my all-​around favorites and go-​to sex toys to pre­pare for fist­ing, now that I’ve already got­ten com­fort­able with using huge dil­dos vaginally.

Dildos and plugs for fisting training

• Oxballs Ergo Large super soft — a squishy plug mea­sur­ing about 2.3” across and 4.8” insertable. Comfortable for all-​day wear if you get the right size.
• Vixen Randy single-​density — a medium-​firm dil­do about 2.1” across, a lit­tle thin­ner than a soda can
• Tantus Bishop - a slight­ly squishi­er and super long dil­do about 2.6” across, with curved con­tours and front-​loading for A‑spot and G‑spot mas­sage. It's over­all the best large dil­do for fist prepa­ra­tion IMO.
• Tantus Fist Trainer - same firm­ness as the Bishop, but as the name sug­gests, the Fist Trainer is more point­ed to emu­late a duck-​billed hand

If you’re not quite size roy­al­ty yet and need a lit­tle help ris­ing through the ranks, keep reading.

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The pre-​warm-​up dildos

These dil­dos are a bit girthy but not quite extreme or beyond-​human. They’re a great place to dip your toes in the water and see if huge dil­dos are suit­able for you.

Shown in the picture below, from left to right:

• Luminous Stud dual-​density dil­do by Evolved Novelties 
• Squeeze-​It Squeezable Thick Phallic dil­do by XR Brands
• Vixen Creations Outlaw 2” thick dual-​density dildo
• Vixen Creations Colossus squishy exten­sion sleeve
• Njoy Eleven stain­less steel dildo
• Uberrime Aqua-​King Aquaman-​themed dildo

My top picks: the njoy Eleven and Uberrime Aqua-King.

Affordable thick dildos

At the begin­ning of your size queen explo­ration, you may want to try a few dif­fer­ent diam­e­ters to see what works for you. And budget-​conscious options make that a lot easier.

The Luminous Stud dual-​density dil­do by Evolved Novelties is love­ly. Its squishy out­er lay­er and firm core make it feel more real­is­tic, and it’s quite afford­able at $49.99. Also, 8.5” of insertable length! It’s com­pa­ra­ble in size to the VixSkin Outlaw, and I have noth­ing neg­a­tive to say about its pen­e­tra­tion sensation.

There's one cos­met­ic down­side: the translu­cent white sil­i­cone turns yel­low over time. I wish it wasn't the case, but at the price? Eh. I'm will­ing to deal with it. 

If hard mate­ri­als are more your thing, con­sid­er also the Glas 8" Pure Indulgence slid­er dil­do.

It's gen­tly curved and bul­bous on both ends — one end 1.25" across and the oth­er 2" across. Another way to frame it? A "lite" tri­al run of the njoy Pure Wand and Eleven.

It won't find your hot spots for you, but it'll give you every­thing you need to explore your inter­nal zones with­out break­ing the bank. It's $13 with a Romantic Depot VIP Club mem­ber­ship (which is $15 per month).

Vixen Creations VixSkin

The VixSkin Johnny was my first for­ay into big dil­dos and is still one of my all-​time favorites. Its big­ger sib­ling, the VixSkin Outlaw, is a bit thick­er but soooo squish, delight­ful against my walls and cervix.

And the VixSkin Colossus can be slipped over an average-​sized cock to add some meat. I like using it on the Velvet Thruster.

Uberrime Aqua-​King

I’ve tried many Uberrime Dildos, but the Aqua-​King is prob­a­bly my favorite one for a mod­er­ate stretch. Its triple-​crowned head digs into my A‑spot and G‑spot at the same time for what I’ve called “orches­tral dopamine magic.” 

(Uberrime’s A‑Spot Avenger is basi­cal­ly Aqua-​King 2.0. The for­mer is soft­er for cervix stim­u­la­tion and depth play, while the Aqua-​King is firmer for the stretch.)

njoy Eleven stainless steel dildo

This blud­geon is my all-​time favorite A‑spotter. It’s expen­sive, but the com­bi­na­tion of heft, cur­va­ture, and head shape are some heart-​eyes-​emoji witch­craft. If I had to keep only one dil­do, it would be the njoy Eleven.

I’ll have to direct you to my full njoy Eleven review to do jus­tice to it.

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Comparison among these thick (but not too thick!) dildos

	Max Diameter	Mid-Shaft Diam.	Diam. Near Base	Usable Length	Firmness (Outer Layer)
Evolved Luminous Stud	2	1.6	1.6	8	2.5
VixSkin Outlaw	1.9	1.7	1.7	8.5	2
VixSkin Colossus	2.3*	1.7	1.7	6	2
Uberrime Aqua-King	2.1	1.7	1.7	7.5	5
njoy Eleven	2	1.7	n/a (no base)	9.5	F-ING HARD

*Since the Colossus is a sleeve with some stretch, its cir­cum­fer­ence is slight­ly depen­dent on what you slip it over. 

We have a range of hard­ness­es, from VixSkin’s plush out­er lay­er at a 2 and stain­less steel being off the charts. (The shore durom­e­ter I used was meant to mea­sure soft rubbers.)

As such, the Outlaw would be the most gentle-​feeling among them. The Evolved Luminous Stud would be next, then the Aqua-​King with its firmer sil­i­cone, and then the njoy Eleven.

Consider also head shape. Evolved Novelties’ Luminous Stud dildo’s glans juts out more than, say, the Outlaw’s does. The for­mer has a stark­er con­trast between the coro­na and shaft measurements.

Uberrime’s Aqua-​King feels the most intense of the sil­i­cone dil­dos in this sec­tion due to the com­bi­na­tion of:

• Head-​to-​shaft contrast
• The point­ed, sawtooth-​like crowns
• The firmer silicone

But it can’t, of course, pum­mel my G‑spot or A‑spot with the njoy Eleven stain­less steel dildo’s direct­ness and sheer force.

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The big tapered dildos

These dil­dos have pointy tips and ramp up in cir­cum­fer­ence for a grad­ual stretch. They’re still chal­leng­ing to con­sume in their entire­ty, but you can start with just the tip and ease into it.

Hankey's Toys Davy’s Tendrils M/​L tentacle dildo

It looks intim­i­dat­ing, but it’s made of suu­u­per soft sil­i­cone. As such, it’s gen­tle to use just the top half, but you can also fold it for a more con­sid­er­able stretch.

Uberrime Deep Diver curved tentacle dildo

This ten­ta­cle dil­do is firmer and curved, great for G‑spot stim­u­la­tion before attempt­ing to con­sume the entire shaft.

Uberrime Flora Large fat flower-​shaped fantasy dildo

This flo­ral fan­ta­sy dil­do is almost plug-​style with a dis­tinct knot. Get the widest part of the bulb past your pubic bone, and let the tight­est sec­tion of your vagi­na wrap around the Flora’s “neck.” It’s soft and fun to squeeze against the G‑spot. 

Tantus Fist Trainer huge silicone dildo

I main­ly includ­ed the Fist Trainer for size and shape com­par­i­son. Make no mis­take: it is severe and far more advanced than the oth­ers in this section.

Tantus’s “Super Soft” sil­i­cone is a “medi­um” firm­ness on oth­er mak­ers’ scales. And that’s not com­mon knowl­edge, but it should be in Toyland.

Comparison of these girthy tapered dildos

	Max Diameter	Mid-Shaft Diam.	Diam. Near Base	Usable Length	Firmness
Hankey's Davy's Tendrils M/L	2.9	2.3	2.9	11	2
Uberrime Deep Diver	2.9	1.7	2.9	7	7.5
Uberrime Flora Large	2.8	2.25	1.7	7	2.5
Tantus Fist Trainer	2.7	2.2	2.2	9.5	7.5

First things first: the Tantus Fist Trainer is among the firmest in this sec­tion, and it ramps up in girth the quick­est. In con­trast, the Deep Diver's strength lies in its cur­va­ture and grad­ual gauge.

For a sat­is­fy­ing “pop­ping” sen­sa­tion against the G‑spot or short-​term vagi­nal plug­ging, I high­ly rec­om­mend the Uberrime Flora's shape.

Finally, Davy’s Tendrils is the soft­est. Again, fold it in half for more girth. Tentacles upon ten­ta­cles upon ten­ta­cles. Or don’t.

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Plugs and wand massagers inserted vaginally

A.K.A. The “Off-​Label” Uses

Oxballs Ergo super soft plugs

The Oxballs Ergo plugs come in a wide range of sizes for long-​term wear — what­ev­er your expe­ri­ence lev­el with giant dil­dos or fist­ing. And they’re just fun to clench around.

Here's how the Oxballs Ergo plugs I have measure up:

• Ergo XS — 1.3" max width and 2.75" insertable length
• Ergo L — 2.3" max width and 5.75" insertable length

Yeah, the Large is a huge butt plug, but my shore durom­e­ter bare­ly reg­is­tered the hard­ness at a 1. That’s how soft Oxballs’ super soft sil­i­cone is.

I’ve said it before: yes, you can use a huge butt plug vagi­nal­ly, depend­ing on the shape.

Ideally, a vaginal plug would be:

• Slightly off-​center
• Not too pointy
• Nice and squishy

That way, it won’t irri­tate your cervix too too much, and you can focus on the good part: enjoy­ing the stretch and prepar­ing for what’s next.

Wand massagers used vaginally

Who looks at a ful­ly silicone-​coated wand mas­sager and thinks, “Yeah, that looks yum­my for stick­ing in my vagi­na”? Me. That’s who.

My favorite wands for inser­tion are the Dame Com, Swan Wand Classic, and We-​Vibe Wand, all for dif­fer­ent reasons.

Dame Com wand massager

The Dame Com is the most com­pact of the three but the most A‑spotty and G‑spotty. Between the girth, curve, and moderately-​rumbly vibra­tions, I audi­bly insta-​came the first time I tried the Dame Com internally.

Use it on a part­ner who craves huge dil­dos and watch them either beg for more or for you to stop because it’s so overwhelming.

BMS Factory Swan Wand

Meanwhile, the BMS Factory Swan Wand is even girthi­er for a more exten­sive stretch and suu­u­per pow­er­ful. We’re talk­ing like Hitachi-​level. So if you’ve ever want­ed to insert the Magic Wand, the BMS Factory Swan Wand is for you.

We-​Vibe Wand

Finally, the We-​Vibe Wand is even THICCer but has a more tapered tip, mean­ing it can help you pre­pare for fist­ing with­out near­ly as much ure­thral irri­ta­tion. It also offers We-​Connect capa­bil­i­ty, and its low, bass-​like purr makes it the rum­bli­est recharge­able wand I’ve ever tried. Not the strongest, but the deep­est for sure.

	Max Diameter	Mid-Shaft Diam.	Usable Length
Dame Com	2	1.5	8
BMS Swan Wand	2.1	1.3	8
We-Vibe Wand	2.2	n/a	4

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The OMGs — big but squishy dildos

These dil­dos give a more sig­nif­i­cant stretch than the “Pre-​Warm-​Ups” but are still quite squishy on the outside.

Remember when I said that, above 2.1” thick­ness, it’s expo­nen­tial­ly hard­er to find big dil­dos? Yeah, we’re now veer­ing fur­ther away from promi­nent man­u­fac­tur­ers and more towards indie makers.

SelfDelve Aubergine /​ Eggplant dildo

Silly? Sure. Sensual? Hell, yeah.

It’s blunt­ly volu­mi­nous for sure […] Once the broad­est part is past my pubic bone, how­ev­er, its glossy sil­i­cone is all smooth sail­ing and end­less, intense orgasms. […]

It’s squishy enough to con­form to my pubic bone’s dip and tes­sel­late against my G‑spot, while fat and firm enough to give my G‑spot intense resis­tance. […] And for deep pen­e­tra­tion? My A‑spot and cervix are pleased.

— my full SelfDelve Aubergine /​ Eggplant dil­do review

Vixen Creations VixSkin Gambler

I’ll just quote my Vixen Creations VixSkin Gambler review here:

Buying a VixSkin Gambler is like pay­ing once for a life­time of access to altered states of consciousness […]

“One more orgasm,” and some light thrust­ing quick­ly turns into ten more min­utes straight of scream­ing and shak­ing. And anoth­er ten min­utes. And another.

Pris Toys Sentinel

My vagi­na goes into a prim­i­tive “CRUSH OBJECT INSIDE” mode — a self-​perpetuating loop, where squeez­ing around the undu­lat­ing head is in itself stim­u­lat­ing, even with the most min­i­mal thrusts.

As long as I have the Pris Toys Sentinel inside me, the oxy­tocin keeps flooding.

With indie sil­i­cone dil­dos, you'll find dif­fer­ent col­or schemes at dif­fer­ent shops. At early2bed, you can get Cosmic (pink and blue) or Green Slime. At SheVibe, you'll find the Horizon (gold and white) col­or scheme.

Comparison among these big but squishy dildos

	Max Diameter	Mid-Shaft Diam.	Diam. Near Base	Usable Length	Firmness
Self Delve Eggplant / Aubergine	2.3	1.8	n/a	6.5	7
Pris Toys Basilisk	2.2	2.2	2.1	6	3.5
VixSkin Gambler	2.6	2.6	2.6	10.5	2
Pris Toys Sentinel	2.5	2.1	2.2	7.5	3.5

Once again, firm­ness mea­sures a lot when it comes to per­ceived inten­si­ty. The VixSkin Gambler looks flashy next to my arm in pho­tos — and it cer­tain­ly is mag­i­cal to sit on it and feel the bii­i­i­i­i­i­i­i­ig stretch. But its head is all squish.

Depending on what you’re look­ing for, that may or may not be a good thing. If some­thing a lit­tle firmer would do it for you, get the Pris Toys Sentinel.

As well, the Uberrime Maxime isn’t near­ly as THICC, but its head shape feels the most G‑spotty. So don’t go for size alone. Consider the oth­er fea­tures you like in a giant dildo.

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The OMFGs — huge realistic dildos

Cue ahe­gao hot drool­ing face emo­ji. These big dil­dos will def­i­nite­ly pre­pare you for fist­ing. Or enjoy them on their own. If you can rise to the chal­lenge, explo­sive orgasms abound — same deal as in the above sec­tion, but take it to the next lev­el. I don’t need to make the rest of this post porno­graph­ic, do I?

Uberrime Anurian dildo bigger than soda can

THICK DOESN'T EVEN BEGIN TO DESCRIBE IT. IT IS VOLUPTUOUS. THERE'S SO MUCH OF IT, with 2.7" max­i­mum diam­e­ter. It's a human-​amphibian hybrid fan­ta­sy dil­do with:

• A two-​lobed, point­ed head
• A swollen and round mush­room tip corona
• RIDGES GALORE along the frenu­lum and below
• A shaft that tapers down from 2.7" to 1.8", like an extreme vagi­nal plug

It's sooooooo, so pret­ty and fill­ing that I had to add it to this guide, more than a half year after I orig­i­nal­ly wrote it! JUST GET THE UBERRIME ANURIAN. OR READ MY NEAR-​PORNOGRAPHIC REVIEW.

Colours DP Pleasures double dildo by NS Novelties

Fisting and dou­ble pen­e­tra­tion in one hole involve the same skill set, yeah? The NS Colours DP Pleasures is kind of like insert­ing two average-​sized cocks. 

BMS Addiction Roman realistic silicone dildo

This huge real­is­tic dil­do with balls mea­sures a whopping:

• 8" total
• 6" insertable
• 2.4" across the widest part of the shaft
• 8A Shore den­si­ty (a lit­tle firm and quite intense!)

The Addiction Roman is just anoth­er mem­ber (hah) of BMS Factory's afford­able real­is­tic dil­do line. As with all its sib­lings, the Roman dil­do is body-​safe sil­i­cone and an utter steal for the price.

It's $27 online if you're a Romantic Depot VIP, which is $15 per month to join. If you looove col­lect­ing sex toys, the sav­ings with your VIP Club mem­ber­ship will cer­tain­ly add up! 

Blush Novelties Neo Elite 10” dual-​density dildo

The Neo Elite 10” and 11” are also among the best huge sil­i­cone dil­dos you can get for the price.

Vixen Randy (single-​density)

I deeply respect how sump­tu­ous dual-​density dil­dos feel, but the Vixen Randy’s defined head and OG firm­ness feel fan­tas­tic against my G‑spot. The Vixen Creations Randy curved girthy dil­do is shown below on the left.

(Don’t wor­ry, it’s not the cen­ter thing, lmfao.)

Uberrime Uberron (without balls) and Uberous (colossal dildo with balls)

These dil­dos are both veeer­rry soft, with defined coro­nas and some vein and fore­skin texture.

While they ramp up to sim­i­lar diam­e­ters near the base, the Uberron has more of a taper to it. It increas­es from 2” wide at the head to a whop­ping 2.9” at the bot­tom. Meanwhile, the Uberous’s shaft diam­e­ters range from 2.1” to 2.6” wide. 

Hankey’s Toys Topher Michels

There’s a rea­son I sim­ply refer to it as “the big, wrinkly ball sack dil­do.” But also, it's pos­si­bly the best extra large dil­do for G‑spot stim­u­la­tion that I've tried.

There’s so much skin-​like sur­face grain and veinage, espe­cial­ly high­light­ed by the glossy sil­i­cone surface. […] 

One of the most notice­able traits (besides the balls) is the engorged head. […] Combine that with the curved shaft for the seri­ous­ly tar­get­ed stim­u­la­tion that my G‑spot some­times craves.

Even with shal­low pen­e­tra­tion, I’m prac­ti­cal­ly a 3‑pump chump when using Mr. Hankey’s Toys’ Topher Michels.

— my full Hankey's Toys Topher Michels Medium review

Hole Punch Toys Moonshiner

The Moonshiner sil­i­cone dil­do is for any­one who’s want­ed to insert a wine bot­tle, but safe­ly. Enough said. 

Comparison of these yuuuuge dildos

	Max Diameter	Mid-Shaft Diam.	Diam. Near Base	Usable Length	Firmness
BMS Naked Addiction Roman	2.4	2.1	2	6	12
NS Colours DP Pleasures (tips squeezed together)	2.7	2.7	2.9	6.5	14
Blush Neo Elite 10"	2.7	2.3	2.4	9	5
Vixen Randy	2.2	2	2.1	5.5	13
Uberrime Anurian	2.7	2.7	1.8	6.5	5
Uberrime Uberron	2.9	2.4	2.9	8	5
Uberrime Uberous	2.6	2.2	2.6	6.5	5
Hankey's Toys Topher Michels	2.7	2.6	2.7	7	3.5

All of the dil­dos in this sec­tion are adored and demi-​godly. I refuse to choose my favorite. However, if you’re very spe­cif­ic in your behe­moth dil­do pref­er­ences, here are some considerations:

For G‑spot stim­u­la­tion with a vast, flared mush­room tip dil­do, get the Hankey’s Toys Topher Michels (HUGE) or Vixen Randy (still huge. But not wild­ly so).

If you want some­thing that ramps up more slow­ly for deep­er pen­e­tra­tion, get the Uberrime Uberron or Uberous.

Not for me, but you do you

I can admit my lim­its — no shame in that.

The Split Peaches Screw You Large sound­ed man­age­able on paper, but its firm­ness and intense tex­tures were too much for me. And the Tantus Pawn XL was way big­ger than expect­ed — 3” across the head instead of 2” across, and it only ramps up from there.

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Key takeaways from this mega-guide to fisting and giant dildos

1. Fisting can be a beau­ti­ful­ly inti­mate act.

2. The pelvic floor mus­cles can be both flex­i­ble and strong. You don’t have to explain that to anyone.

3. Relaxation is of the utmost impor­tance when prepar­ing for fist­ing. Pair exter­nal stim­u­la­tion with pen­e­tra­tion. Work through a chal­leng­ing girth by paus­ing, breath­ing slow­ly, then cycling through long phas­es of clench­ing and relax­ing. You don’t have to push the insertable deep­er continuously.

4. The hand is duck-​billed while fist­ing. Once you’re inside, you can close the fist if you want, but it’s not necessary.

5. While you don’t NEED big dil­dos to pre­pare for fist­ing, hav­ing toys makes it eas­i­er for every­one involved. Thickness cer­tain­ly mat­ters in choos­ing a fist­ing warm-​up dil­do, but so does firmness.

6. Huge dil­dos can cause intense sen­sa­tions and uncon­trol­lable orgasms with even the small­est thrusts.

And I want more peo­ple to expe­ri­ence the plea­sure of fisting.

Nowadays, I don’t even count how many peo­ple I’ve slept with any­more; I just count how often I’ve been the first per­son some­one fisted.