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7 Ways Animal Mating Is Like Human Dating 1

7 Ways Animal Mating Is Like Human Dating

…and 1 way it (hope­ful­ly) isn't! When you think of human mat­ing rit­u­als, what comes to mind? Is it the pre-​​date primp­ing? Verbal spar­ring? Fooling around in a movie the­ater because you want safe pseudo-​privacy? Dr. Carin Bondar’s book Wild…

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Sex Toys for Every Star Sign & Pleasure Persona: A Gift Guide

Toys for your zodi­ac sign, from auda­cious Aries to poet­ic Pisces This stel­lar shop­ping guide pairs sex-​​positive prod­ucts with astrology-​​inspired arche­types — div­ing into the sym­bol­ism and Hellenic plan­et ruler­ship to match your erot­ic ener­gy. Non-​​believer? No prob­lem! You'll likely…

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Why Do Men Buy & Jack Off to Women’s Used Panties?

What kind of man buys and sniffs used panties? Is he a per­vert? A los­er cuck? A fetishist, or kinky, or just some­one being a reg­u­lar wank­ing dude? He could be any or all of the above — it’s in the…

3 Emotional Needs of Sext Chat & Femdom Enthusiasts 2

3 Emotional Needs of Sext Chat & Femdom Enthusiasts

"I work with men's men­tal health" is how I'd euphem­ize my work as a pro-​Domme. And it's the truth. When a client is com­pelled to spend thou­sands of dol­lars a month to talk to me, it's not (just) because he…

Carnal Confessions from the Kinky Congregation 3

Carnal Confessions from the Kinky Congregation

I am Superior Trask, head of penance, here to dis­close the sins of the con­gre­ga­tion. Punishment and spir­i­tu­al cleans­ing shall be con­duct­ed amid your sin­ful souls; the rosary will also be prayed for your bro­ken, kinky minds. For this super…

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Dildos vs. "The Real Thing": Which One I'd Rather Have

A dil­do isn’t going to dance with one arm around my waist and the oth­er hand pulling my hair, tilt­ing my head for a kiss. Sex toys don’t have juicy, part­ed pil­low lips and tongues that “Yes, and” — kiss­ing me…

Domina Decoded: 5 Femdom Principles for Male Obedience 4

Domina Decoded: 5 Femdom Principles for Male Obedience

Master female dom­i­nance and male sub­mis­sion, rule over him, and have him eat­ing out of your hand. Men's myr­i­ad moti­va­tions for sex go beyond the phys­i­cal release — even with the slight­est graze under the psyche's sur­face. Just a few reasons…

Breaking Chains: Defining BDSM & Reimagining Roles 6

Breaking Chains: Defining BDSM & Reimagining Roles

Fifty Shades of Grey. Secretary. Chains and whips in Rihanna's 2010 dance-​​pop hit, S&M. When the main­stream thinks of BDSM, they think of a neat bina­ry of: But BDSM is far more faceted and nuanced — with far more shades of…

7 Steamy Skills For Soft Dominant Dirty Talk 7

7 Steamy Skills For Soft Dominant Dirty Talk

Torment with plea­sure and dis­ci­pline with praise. Soft Domination can have a hard-​​hitting psy­cho­log­i­cal impact with tears of over­whelm and ecsta­sy — no chains or whips nec­es­sary. Our focus here is the brain and cun­ning lin­guis­tics. So you want to…

THROWBACK: 5 First Sex Toys, 10 Years Later! 8

THROWBACK: 5 First Sex Toys, 10 Years Later!

400 SEX TOYS! TEN YEARS! It's been a decade since I start­ed col­lect­ing sex toys — and five years since I made my blog into a busi­ness! Can you believe it?! My sex toy col­lec­tion has grown so much since…