Review: Cal Exotics Slay Thrust Me, Charm Me, and Arouse Me

One of these California Exotics Slay mini-​vibes gave me 27 orgasms in one session — but the other two belong in the trash.

"I can't tell if the COVID vac­cine is about to induce my peri­od or if I'm just ungod­ly horny," I texted a friend and Tweeted. At the time, I had orgasmed 10 times with a cli­toral vibra­tor and no pen­e­tra­tion. By the time my friend respond­ed, that count was up to 26.

The mag­ic toy in ques­tion? The zingy AF California Exotics Slay Charm Me bul­let. Though Cal Ex's vibra­tor motors are hit-​and-miss over­all, it's no secret that I'm a fan of their recharge­able bullets.

Their Marvelous Flicker tongue vibra­tor not only got me close to squirt­ing but also gave a blog­ger friend orgasms so strong that she had an asth­ma attack. And the Marvelous Lover (also from the Cal Exotics Mini Marvels line) unex­pect­ed­ly made me squirt on my boyfriend.

The oth­er new Slay mini-​vibes, though? Ehhhh… While the Slay Arouse Me had poten­tial, I don't think its motor place­ment is ide­al. And let's say I'll prob­a­bly nev­er use the Slay Thrust Me again after this review.

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California Exotics Slay Charm Me rumbly bullet vibrator review

The Cal Exotics Slay Charm Me bullet is one of the best cheap bullets I've tried.

If there's noth­ing else to take away from this review, it's that the California Exotics Slay Charm Me packs a seri­ous punch for its size and its price. The splash is real when you dip it in water. And it's no Tango or Amo or Digit, buu­u­u­u­ut the Slay Charm Me could com­pete with most of the rumbly bul­lets I dis­sect­ed the pre­vi­ous year.

Comparison to other affordable bullets

More specif­i­cal­ly, the Slay Charm Me car­ries vibra­tions that are:

• Way stronger than the Pillow Talk Racy
• A lit­tle more pow­er­ful than the Femmefunn FFix and Bougie bul­lets
• About par with the VeDO Bam
• Buzzier than the Je Joue bullets

Versatile size for bullet cavities

At a mere 0.8" across, though, the Cal Exotics Slay Charm Me is also more com­pact than most oth­er cheap but pow­er­ful recharge­able vibrators.

It's only a lit­tle fat­ter than the We-​Vibe Tango and skin­nier than the Je Joue bul­lets, mak­ing the Slay Charm Me a great can­di­date for slip­ping inside sleeves and dil­dos with bul­let cav­i­ties. Just make sure to use ample water-​based lube for the eas­i­est time get­ting it in and out.

Controls and settings

What's more? The Slay Charm Me doesn't do any­thing weird with its con­trols and settings.

It doesn't start with the high­est steady speed, then drop down to the low­est, then play pat­terns, unlike the Maia Jessi and VeDO Bam. It also doesn't have a gazil­lion rhythms, unlike the recharge­able FemmeFunn and NU Sensuelle bul­lets tend to. More options sound cool until you have to press a but­ton 19 times to cycle through pat­terns and loop back to a low­er steady speed.

Nope.

The Slay Charm Me is sleek and sim­ple, with a one-​button con­trol for the 10 func­tions — 3 steady speeds and 7 pat­terns. Notably, two rhythms are fast and con­sis­tent, mak­ing it easy to main­tain arousal and keep going. The oth­ers are use­less unless you like edg­ing. Overall, though, there's enough vari­ety to cov­er all the bases.

Any downsides to the Cal Ex Slay Charm Me?

While the Charm Me bul­let is a dream to use, it's not per­fect. For one, it's only avail­able in pink. It's also not for you if you:

• Strongly dis­like vibra­tions trans­fer­ring to your hand — there is a lii­i­it­tle bit of that with the Charm Me
• Need some­thing low-​pitched or espe­cial­ly rumbly — try the Je Joue bul­lets instead
• Would pre­fer to have "increase" and "decrease" but­tons — get the We-​Vibe Tango or Hot Octopuss Amo
• Want the most pow­er­ful bul­let vibra­tor — try the Blush Exposed Nocturnal if you don't mind a lit­tle buzziness
• Are super strapped for cash — the BMS Essential bul­let is about half the price

How do I FEEL about it?

The California Exotics Slay Charm Me is yum­my for long ses­sions where I have time to build up for extra explo­sive orgasms — hence so many con­sec­u­tive mul­ti­ples and the abil­i­ty to make me squirt. It won't please every­body, but it's a good fit for those who enjoy a lit­tle bite to their bullets.

Personally, the orgasms I had with the Cal Exotics Slay Charm me were beyond worth the price tag; it's delight­ful how ver­sa­tile it is for the price.

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Slay Arouse Me soft, pear-shaped vibrator review

I could summarize this section in three words: "unfortunate" and "had potential."

The Cal Ex Slay Arouse Me has a sim­i­lar motor to the Charm Me, but the vibra­tions get lost in the broad bulb. There's no focus to the Slay Arouse Me.

I respect what the design­ers were going for:

• The big, grip­py ball is easy to hold on to and an arthritis-​friendly shape.
• There's some squish to the silicone.
• Its tip is pointy, flut­ters a lit­tle, and focus­es the sensation

However, I can tell that the peak isn't where the motor is focused. Again, it's in the bulb — the place where most peo­ple would grab it. And I wouldn't call tingly hands an acces­si­ble fea­ture among vibrators.

I also think California Exotics' claim of "ultra-​soft™ dual-​density sil­i­cone" on the Slay Arouse Me is mis­lead­ing. It's soft, sure, but not near­ly what you'd expect on a dual-​density dil­do. Don't expect to smoosh it around like mochi balls or a pug's face. If any­thing, the Slay Arouse Me's sil­i­cone is about as firm as Blush's small­er Avant dil­dos and Wellness dila­tors.

Know what you're get­ting your­self into with the Cal Exotics Slay Arouse Me: lots of vibra­tion in your hand and very lit­tle on your genitals.

The Slay Arouse Me could be con­sid­ered a stronger alter­na­tive to Iroha's cheap­er pear-​shaped vibra­tors, to its cred­it. However, your hands and hot spots would ulti­mate­ly thank you for get­ting a Marvelous Flicker or Iroha Temari instead.

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Slay Thrust Me thrusting wearable vibrator review

I left the worst for last.

Don't ask me what the best remote con­trol panty vibra­tor is. There are a few decent lux­u­ry ones (name­ly the OhMiBod Esca 2 and Lovense Lush 3), but it's oth­er­wise, the cat­e­go­ry is a bust.

The Slay Thrust Me's thrust­ing mech­a­nism looks impres­sive in videos, but that's about it. If I bought it with my own mon­ey, I'd prob­a­bly use it more often, try­ing to con­vince myself to like it before admit­ting the defeat of a sunk cost.

While the bullet's accor­dion stretch­ing and con­tract­ing feels like some­thing, it doesn't do much for my plea­sure. And the vibra­tions are too buzzy to be useful.

Because of the round­ed bead and lack of taper­ing, my vagi­na sucks in the Slay Thrust Me. It locks in place past my pubic bone, too deep to do much for my G‑spot but too shal­low to put pres­sure on my cervix or A‑spot in any mean­ing­ful way.

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I also loved fuck­ing myself with my Pris Toy Sentinel and a strong, com­pact bul­let. For a pair­ing like that, the California Exotics Slay Charm Me fit the bill, build­ing up blend­ed orgasms and heart-​eyes emo­jis galore.

Further read­ing:

• Best Bullet Vibrators: Tango X vs. Swan Maximum, Je Joue, and More!

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