Choosing the Best Anal Toys (for Beginner & Intermediate Play)

My vagi­na is size roy­al­ty, but my butt is a plug ple­beian. Even if I hadn't men­tioned that before in a review, you might have noticed my rel­a­tive lack of posts about anal play.

It's not because I haven't put toys in my butt — I have. Not often enough to do them jus­tice in full-​length reviews, but enough to know the prin­ci­ples of good design. This list dis­tills my expe­ri­ences for just about any­one seek­ing anal toys, but espe­cial­ly for begin­ners look­ing for a place to start.

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In this guide to butt stuff:

• Choosing a butt plug with…
  • Small, slen­der T‑bases that fit between cheeks
  • Narrow necks for long-​term wear
  • Forward tilts for G‑spot and prostate pressure
• Dildos for butt stuff
  • Frill-​free and grad­u­al­ly sized dila­tor kits
  • Average-​sized real­is­tic dil­dos with squish
  • Thrustables with bumps and textures
• Good anal lube
• Beyond begin­ner butt stuff

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Tips for choosing a butt plug

There are many rea­sons why some­one might use a butt plug. The full­ness and weight can feel good on their own but are also fun to pair with oth­er forms of stim­u­la­tion. Think vagi­nal inter­course with an anal plug in or vice ver­sa. Or inter­nal full­ness and exter­nal vibration.

They also, of course, serve as a warm-​up for big­ger inserta­bles or anal inter­course. Whatever the rea­son for using one, there are a few char­ac­ter­is­tics that the best butt plugs often share.

Butt plugs with small, slender bases are generally the most comfortable to wear.

Think about it: a T‑bar base rests between the cheeks. It makes sense to have a base that's flared enough to stop the toy from get­ting sucked in, but also nar­row. Butt cracks aren't round! There are times where a round base might be help­ful, though, like when doing dou­ble pen­e­tra­tion. One that's too long might block the oth­er hole. Otherwise, here are some thin butt plugs with barely-​noticeable bases to try.

Anal Adventures Curve

This plug ticks the box­es for a begin­ner booty toy. It's body-​safe, as is every­thing else on this list. The plug's bulb slow­ly tapers up to a very mod­est 0.8" max-​width. (For com­par­i­son, the aver­age man's ring size is 10, about 0.78" wide). And the slim base is 2" long by 0.8" across, a com­fort­able shape and size.

VeDO Bump

The VeDO Bump vibrat­ing butt plug is a bit big­ger, at 5" long by 1.18" wide— but thin and tapered enough to still be appro­pri­ate for a begin­ner. Plus, the perk of a butt toy that vibrates is that the mas­sag­ing helps relax the sphinc­ter. And when insert­ing any­thing anal­ly, relax­ation is vital.

A long, narrow neck & bigger bulb is comfortable to retain

When a butt plug's neck is barely-​there, the sphinc­ters can close up around it for com­fort­able long-​term wear. Some review­ers like plugs that prop open the sphinc­ter (more on that towards the end of this post), but I'm not among them. It's no coin­ci­dence that many plugs I liked are volup­tuous with a big bulb-​to-​neck ratio.

b‑Vibe Snug Plug

Among them is the b‑Vibe Snug Plug, torpedo-​shaped to (as the name would sug­gest) stay snug inside the rec­tal canal. Its fit pro­vides deep inter­nal pres­sure akin to anal sex— with­out the sphinc­ter stretch dur­ing wear.

This plug also has jig­gling met­al weights inside for a light tap­ping sen­sa­tion as they bounce against the hard plas­tic inner shell. It's eas­i­ly one of the most unique I've tried, and its sizes range from 0.8" to 2" wide. I want to run up and down the stairs while wear­ing a Snug Plug 2 or 3. (If you'd rather have tra­di­tion­al vibra­tion, there are vibrat­ing Snug Plugs avail­able, too!)

Try a forward tilt to tickle your prostate or G‑spot.

I love it when a plug's bulb is asym­met­ric, plac­ing sub­tle but ever-​present pres­sure on my front wall. I want to play with it by clench­ing and relax­ing to feel the shift.

Fun Factory Bootie & Oxballs Ergo Super Soft

Such is the case with the Fun Factory Bootie. It fea­tures many of the pre­vi­ous­ly men­tioned char­ac­ter­is­tics I like, such as:

• Easy-​to-​insert and slight­ly tapered tip
• Petite but safe T‑base
• Full swell and tiny neck
• Sizing starts at a mere 1.1" across and ranges up to 1.6" wide.

But its shape is what makes it stand out and its pres­ence sweet­ly stim­u­lat­ing and notice­able to the wear­er. For a sim­i­lar tilt but squishi­er full­ness to squeeze around, get an Oxballs Ergo Super Soft. The silicone's pli­a­bil­i­ty con­forms to your body for max­i­mum com­fort. And its size range is remark­able, from 1.3" wide for the XS to 2.7" XL. (The large Ergo is my favorite big plug for wear­ing vaginally!)

njoy Pure Plugs

As far as G‑spotty plugs go, though, I don't think any­thing tops the intense pres­sure of the njoy Pure Plugs. I pre­fer to use njoy's plugs vagi­nal­ly, but regard­less of which hole my Pure Plug is in, I want to cream myself. Feeling the stain­less steel heft with every move­ment of my low­er body. It's pre­cise­ly the kind of plug that would make a house dweller like me want to go out danc­ing at 1 am.

I reviewed the Pure Plug Large, but there are oth­er sizes avail­able!

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Beginner anal thrusting dildos and kits I like

Let's move on to slid­ing toys that work well for butt stuff. I've reviewed plen­ty of dil­dos with flared or curved bases that are safe for anal inser­tion, but all of the fol­low­ing are in the small-​to-​medium-​size range.

Dilator sets are a great way to get comfortable with anal penetration!

Or any pen­e­tra­tion. They're designed with vagi­nal use in mind (think of recov­ery from med­ical con­di­tions like vagin­is­mus, high-​tone pelvic floor dys­func­tion, and vagi­nal atro­phy). But the kits with soft sil­i­cone, round tips, smooth shafts, and sizes often make afford­able acces­sories for anal explo­ration, too.

Blush Wellness dilator kit

The 4‑piece Wellness kit is a great place to start, with the fol­low­ing sizes included:

• 0.5" wide x 3.5" long
• 0.75" x 4.75" – about the width of the aver­age man's ring finger
• 1" x 5.5"
• 1.25" x 6"

Blush Novelties Temptasia Twist Kit & other beginner dildos for anal play

Blush Novelties also makes the Temptasia Twist Kit, which fea­tures three dil­dos (0.75", 1", and 1.25" wide) with suc­tion cup bases and gen­tly curved, light­ly tex­tured shafts.

And, of course, Blush offers plen­ty of oth­er pret­ty and afford­able dil­dos, like the Avant Pride P1, P2, and P3. But if your goal is to lev­el up from a fin­ger to a penis, the Temptasia Twist bun­dle works well.

Before anal intercourse, consider squishy, realistic-​feeling silicone dildo of moderate girth

Ready to lev­el up with a flesh-​and-​blood cock or a real­is­tic dil­do proxy? The aver­age penis is 1.45" diam­e­ter, a bit beyond what the dil­do kits above have to offer. Maybe you've already got­ten com­fort­able prep­ping with one the plugs around that size:

• b‑Vibe Snug Plug 3
• Oxballs Ergo medium
• Fun Factory Bootie medium
• njoy Pure Plug Large

Blush Novelties Neo Elite dildos

For a thrust­ing dil­do, I'd rec­om­mend one of the dual-​density Blush Neo Elites. Shape and size aren't the only con­sid­er­a­tions here— the Neo Elite dil­dos are firm on the inside, for intu­itive thrust­ing, and squishy on the out­side for com­fort. The con­trast is not only prac­ti­cal but also results in a life­like, rep­re­sen­ta­tion­al feel. Squishy tip and all.

My per­son­al favorite of the bunch is the Neo Elite 7.5" with­out balls, because of that gen­tle taper. However, the Neo Elite 6" and 7.5" with balls are also with­in the 1.4" to 1.5" diam­e­ter range, so all still com­pa­ra­ble to the aver­age cock. The 7" with balls is a bit thick­er, at 1.75" wide. Check out the entire Blush Neo Elite line at Betty's Toy Box.

Try bumps and textures to play with deep pressure and delicate touch.

If you're look­ing for sen­sa­tions in a non-​representational dil­do, I gotchu too.

njoy Fun Wand

One of my favorite dil­dos to use anal­ly is the stain­less steel njoy Fun Wand. Its mirror-​like fin­ish, with some good lube, means min­i­mal fric­tion on inser­tion. One end fea­tures beads that range from 0.75" to 1" wide — very man­age­able for begin­ners — for rhyth­mic stretching-​and-​relaxing of the anal sphinc­ter. The oth­er side of the njoy Fun Wand is ball-​ended but smooth-​shafted for prostate or G‑spot stimulation.

And yes, peo­ple with vagi­nas can stim­u­late their G‑spot via anal pen­e­tra­tion! The S‑curved shaft and firm pres­sure of njoy's stain­less steel allow for pre­cise aim­ing (though not as direct as the Pure Wand's C‑curve), whichev­er hole you insert it in.

Self Delve Fly Agaric

I also like Self Delve's Amanita mus­caria butt plug as a dil­do — a man­age­able 5" long and 1.1" max-​width. Here's what I wrote in my mini-​review of it:

The anal open­ing is dense­ly packed with Meissner’s cor­pus­cles, or fine touch recep­tors, mak­ing it even more respon­sive to the silicone’s landscape.

As such, this mushroom’s dots offer just the right amount of stim­u­la­tion for me: dis­cernible, but not so defined that they’re irri­tat­ing. If you like sharp­er tex­tures, you also enjoy the sub­tle “pop” from the coro­na and ring edges.

Satisfyer Anal Training Kit

For some­thing super afford­able, con­sid­er Satisfyer's anal train­ing kit. It includes three bumpy insertables:

• Triple Bead – top ball 0.75" max diam­e­ter, mid­dle 1", bot­tom 1.25"
• Double Bead – elon­gat­ed beads start wider: top 1", bot­tom 1.25" across
• Twister Bead – also max­es out at 1.25".

The sil­i­cone has some flex to it, so the retrieval loop is also com­fort­able when sit­ting. However, I wouldn't rec­om­mend wear­ing these anal beads long-​term. There isn't much of a defined neck for the sphinc­ter to close up around— the bulb's swelling starts prac­ti­cal­ly imme­di­ate­ly. That means that the sphinc­ter may part­ly rest on the bulb and reg­is­ter it as some­thing to be pushed out. For thrust­ing, though? They're a fun begin­ner basic.

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My favorite lubricants for anal play

Lube is essen­tial for butt stuff! Here are my top picks.

Sliquid Sassy water-​based lube

As with all of Sliquid's per­son­al lubri­cants, Sliquid Sassy is a water-​based lube free of glyc­erin, propy­lene gly­col, and parabens. And it's com­pat­i­ble with all types of toys and con­doms. What makes Sassy dif­fer­ent from the orig­i­nal for­mu­la is the thick­er, gel-​like con­sis­ten­cy. It's my go-​to lube for any­thing but works excep­tion­al­ly well for anal play.

ID Millennium, Wet Platinum, & other silicone-​based lubes

I'll be hon­est: I'm not that dis­cern­ing with this cat­e­go­ry of per­son­al lubri­cant. It all comes down to sil­i­cone lube is extra slip­pery and long-​lasting, and whichev­er one you use, a few drops go a long way. The longevi­ty does come with a trade-​off, though: it's hard­er to wash away. And sil­i­cone lube gen­er­al­ly degrades sil­i­cone toys. Reserve it for glass, steel, glazed wood, and hard plastic.

UPDATE: See my guide to sen­su­al body care prod­ucts for more of my favorite lubes — and the pros and cons of dif­fer­ent formulas!

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Going beyond beginner butt play

Once you're com­fort­able, you're free to size up and (safe­ly) play with big­ger toys!

b‑Vibe Anal Training & Education Kit

Anal train­ing isn't some­thing you do just once, though. If it's been a while, you may want to get reac­quaint­ed with the sen­sa­tions. That's why, despite b‑Vibe's Anal Training and Education Kit's beginner-​friendliness, it may be a good invest­ment for even expe­ri­enced play­ers to prep with.

Squarepegtoys Blunt Plug

On the flip side, if you're going on a date and want to after­ward go straight into anal, with­out fore­play, The Squarepegtoys Blunt Plug might be a good fit for you. Its wide-​ish neck props open the sphinc­ter while wear­ing the plug, so you can do all your prep­ping ahead of time, remove it, and be ready to go. It's a plug for intermediate-​to-​advanced anal play­ers— begin­ners may find the con­stant stretch irritating.

b‑Vibe Rimming Plugs & Velvet Thruster Teddy or Walter

Looking for some­thing that goes beyond vibra­tion? Consider a b‑Vibe Rimming Plug. They have cir­cling beads in the neck of the plug, sim­u­lat­ing the feel of a swirling tongue.

Or one of the Velvet Thrusters. They're hand­held fuck­ing machines with thrust lengths of 2.5–3" — which feel amaz­ing vagi­nal­ly, but if you're com­fort­able with the insertable por­tions' girth, there's no rea­son you can't use them for anal, too!

Read my reviews of the Velvet Thruster Jackie Prime and Teddy mod­els or check out the entire range of Velvet Thruster designs.

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Wrapping it up!

Though I rarely do butt stuff any­more, I can rec­og­nize a good-​quality butt toy when I see one. These are some of the best body-​safe sex toys for anal play — which poten­tial­ly any body can enjoy. Everyone has a butt!

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