Review: Empowered Queen Tongue-Flicking Vibrator by Cal Exotics

It’s official: pussy pumps are mainstream.

Clitoral suction toys have been around for a hot minute, but it’s only in recent years that they’ve gained mainstream hype — outside the context of fetish.

Around 2019, Pipedream’s Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure went viral on Twitter. There’s clearly demand for a vulva suction toy with a flickering tongue.

External suction increases blood flow to the vulva and vagina to increase sensitivity, while the moving tongue’s broader movements attempt to simulate cunnilingus. On paper, the Her Ultimate Pleasure’s stroke rate of 100 licks per minute on high sounds quite impressive.

Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure vs. Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen

Now, there’s a contender: the Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen Vibrator by Cal Exotics.

Its tongue moves even faster, with about 125 licks per minute on low and 150 on the highest speed. What’s more, its tongue movement has a way bigger range of motion.

That quickly puts the Empowered Queen among my top 3 best sex toys to simulate cunnilingus, especially since I love the firm, pointed tongue’s focus.

The other oral sex simulator mechanisms? Lora DiCarlo Filare’s spinning beads and the Womanizer series’ air pulses. This post about the Cal Exotics Empowered Queen focuses on a back-and-forth tongue movement, though.

The Empowered Queen’s 150 licks per minute is quite enticing on its own.

The Empowered Queen vibrator hasn’t gotten nearly the same level of hype as the Her Ultimate Pleasure, and that’s a disservice to sex toy shoppers.

Frankly, I think the Queen’s controls and functions are far superior. The downside? It may not be the best fit for petite people like me. Overall, though, the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure is a generalist that lets you explore more, while the Empowered Queen is a licking and sucking specialist.

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Best Tongue-Flicking Vibrators and Their Similarities

Let’s start with what these two toys have in common.

Both of these licking, sucking sex toys:

• Deliver true one-way suction rather than thrumming air pulses
• Have tiny tongues that both flick (fast!) and vibrate
• Include 2 different-sized cup attachments
• Have silicone rims on the plastic suction cups for easy cleaning and hygiene
• Have long-ass names, due to how the BIG big manufacturers go about branding

As such, I’ll occasionally call them the Empowered Queen and Her Ultimate Pleasure for short. They offer similar functions, but their audiences do slightly diverge.

Also worth noting: Nu sensuelle trinitii XLR8

I used to recommend the NU Sensuelle Trinitii instead of the Her Ultimate Pleasure for some users. Why?

• Its nozzle is more focused for clitoral stimulation
• The tongue is sharper and more pinpoint
• The handle’s vibrations are way stronger and rumblier

For those who want to zoom in on a small area, you’ll likely enjoy the Trinitii XLR8 more than the Her Ultimate Pleasure or the Empowered Queen.

For full-vulva pussy pumping and flicking, though, read on.

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Where the Empowered Queen and Her Ultimate Pleasure Differ

There’s more to it than how fast they lick —

— though the Empowered Queen’s 150 licks per minute are quite enticing on their own.

Upon turning both toys on, the Her Ultimate Pleasure might look like it has an edge in movement speed, but that’s only until you apply pressure. The Empowered Queen holds up a lot better when, you know, actually in use and shoved up against a clitoris.

The Cal Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen vibrator offers the following functions:

• 3 steady rates and 3 patterns of licking
• Continuous steady suction
• 6 patterns of suction

But also consider the handle shape, suction settings, and user interface.

Beyond Clitoral Suction and Licking

Perhaps to other people, the most striking difference is that the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure has an insertable and vibrating handle.

The Her Ultimate Pleasure’s handle measurements are fine for those who want a basic, moderate-size insertable vibrator:

• 5.4” insertable length
• 1.5” maximum diameter

However, I never gave a shit about that; I found that part of it useless. Its vibrations were too buzzy, the shaft too short, and the curve too slight and non-committal. It adds nothing to the experience for me.

That’s my bias as a fiend for deep penetration and hard thrusting, though. And I find the Cal Exotics Empowered Queen’s egg-shaped body super easy to cup in my palm.

Suction Settings

Both of these toys have powerful aspirating motors, and both can make me damn near insta-cum. But how they feel in use is quite different.

The Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure’s suction settings are all patterns with waves of suck-release times (for example, 4 sections of suction, 1 second of rest). It’s a tease.

In contrast, the Empowered Queen allows the user to keep the suction steady until they “freeze” it in place or quick-release it. Once they’re happy with the “baseline” vacuum intensity, they can add a pattern on top of that if they wish.

If that’s not their thang, the Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen’s suction rhythms and waves are quarantined to a separate button. On the flip side, if you do want rapid-pulsing suction rhythms to approximate a person’s mouth movements, there are plenty of settings for that, too.

The Her Ultimate Pleasure’s slooooow suck-release patterns meant that my junk wasn’t always pulled into the cup or in contact with the flickering tongue. There is a workaround: “freeze” the suction at the peak of each wave. However, I wish that option wasn’t merely an afterthought.

Control Panel

A vibrator’s buttons and patterns (or lack thereof) can make or break it.

To me, the control panel is one of the most notable differences between the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure and Empowered Queen.

These licking sex toys have four buttons each, but what the controls do is quite different. Here’s what the buttons do.

Suction Cup Shape and Size

Both the Empowered Queen and Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure come with two suction cups of different sizes. I’ll go into the detailed measurements in the next section’s table.

The Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure’s attachments cover a much smaller area. One is an ellipse, contoured to fit over a vulva, while the other is circular with a flat rim. You can use the latter for different erogenous zones, such as nipples.

In contrast, the Empowered Queen’s suction cups are both ovals with curved rims designed for vulvar use. And they’re substantially bigger than the Her Ultimate Pleasure’s attachments.

I’m on the petite side (5’1” and 110 lbs), and the Empowered Queen’s smaller suction cup isn’t perfect for me, but it works. If you’re even daintier than me, the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure would be a better fit for you.

Consider also whether you’d occasionally want to use the licking vibrator function without the suction. In such cases, I’d steer someone towards the Empowered Queen. Why? Because the Empowered Queen’s tongue can withstand more pressure before it starts to stall.

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Clitoral Suction and Tongue-Flicking Vibrator Comparison Table

Here’s a quick summary of the differences between the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure and Empowered Queen licking vibrators.

	Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen	Her Ultimate Pleasure
Strokes per minute	Up to 150	Up to 100
Tongue size	4.5 cm x 2.3 cm	3.5 cm x 1.8 cm
Flicking range of motion	2.1 cm	1.5 cm
Suction settings	Continuous steady suction, 6 patterns	3 patterns
Flicking settings	3 steady, 3 patterns	3 steady, 4 patterns
Suction cup opening sizes	6.0 x 8.5 cm 6.5 x 9.4 cm	5 x 5 cm 4.5 x 6.8 cm
Handle shape	Egg-shaped	Slightly curved, phallic
Charger head	Pin	Magnetic
Price	CHECK PRICE	CHECK PRICE

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Suction Vibrator Safety and Hygiene

Please listen to your body.

Once you’ve established a tight enough seal to make use of the tongue vibrator, don’t go any further than that.

Whichever pussy pump you end up getting, be attentive and ready to activate the release at a moment’s notice. FYI, prying it off without letting some air puff out first may make the suction pull even harder!

Don’t use intense suction on broken skin or if you have a history of blood vessel issues. Watch for signs of bruising and discoloration and, of course, discontinue use if irritation occurs.

For hygiene purposes and cleaning, you can:

• Detach the plastic cups from the unit
• Get into the nooks and crannies
• Take the silicone contact rims off the plastic cups

The silicone is super easy to clean by boiling in water for 5 minutes. As for the “tongue,” your best bet for disinfecting is wiping it down with a mild bleach solution, then washing with soap and water and rinsing well.

Use only water-based personal lubricants with silicone toys such as the Empowered Queen. Liquid silicone can degrade the solid silicone, and oil-based lubes tend to be difficult AF to wash off.

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Which One Should You Get?

Who Is the Cal Exotics Empowered Queen Vibrator’s Ideal User?

I’d recommend the Empowered Queen to someone who:

• Cares a lot about tight control of the suction function
• Prefers short, quick patterns rather than long, teasing ones
• Mostly wants to use the suction cup attachments over their whole vulva
• Wants the flicking tongue vibrator to deliver more pressure
• Just wants great clitoral suction and licking

For a vibrator more fluttery and less flicky, consider the Fun Factory Volta.

But if you adamantly want a tongue vibrator, chances are, it’s the prominent range of motion you’re looking for, anyway. The Empowered Queen’s 150 licks per minute are still plenty fast, and the push is substantial, as far as flickering vibrators go.

The Empowered Queen’s staccato patterns rhythmically pull air in one way. Puff, puf, puf, puf, puf, puf. Like a mouth might.

Who Is the Pipedream Fantasy for Her Ultimate Pleasure Licking Vibrator For?

The Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure is more for general exploration. You may like it more if you:

• Intend to use the suction and licking on many different body parts
• Enjoy slow teasing with the suction patterns
• Are down for shallow penetration with a no-frill insertable vibe

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Closing Thoughts

Amazing orgasms, one after another after another.

Toys aren’t replacements for people, and I don’t think we’re anywhere near replacing the human dimension of cunnilingus. However, when it comes to oral sex simulators, the Empowered Queen is the cream of the crop so far.

While rather robot-sounding and… well, mechanical, its mechanism feels more realistic than other flicking vibrators I’ve tried in the past. The beefier tongue and wider movements help.

Plus, rather than pulsing like a pressure wave stimulator, or suuuuuuuuuuuuuucking in continuously like a vacuum, the Empowered Queen’s staccato patterns rhythmically pull air in one way. Puff, puf, puf, puf, puf, puf. Like a mouth might.

If you don’t enjoy that, there’s still the steady seal to increase blood flow to the vulva and vagina while the tongue works its magic. The California Exotics Empowered Queen is decidedly an external clitoral stimulator.

While it’s not the most versatile, it’s stellar at what the makers chose to focus on: latching on and delivering amazing, nearly hands-free orgasms, one after another after another.

Further reading

Looking for a cheap knockoff?

See further comparison in this other post: YoYoLemon Licking Pussy Pump vs. Her Ultimate Pleasure vs. Cal Ex

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