Empowered Queen Tongue-Flicking Vibrator by Cal Exotics

It’s official: pussy pumps are mainstream.

Clitoral suc­tion toys have been around for a hot minute, but it’s only in recent years that they’ve gained main­stream hype — out­side the con­text of fetish.

Around 2019, Pipedream’s Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure went viral on Twitter. There’s clear­ly demand for a vul­va suc­tion toy with a flick­er­ing tongue.

Fantasy For Her Her Ultimate Pleasure vs. Empowered Queen sucking tongue flicking vibrator comparison

External suc­tion increas­es blood flow to the vul­va and vagi­na to increase sen­si­tiv­i­ty, while the mov­ing tongue’s broad­er move­ments attempt to sim­u­late cun­nilin­gus. On paper, the Her Ultimate Pleasure’s stroke rate of 100 licks per minute on high sounds quite impressive.

Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure vs. Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen

Now, there’s a new contender: the Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen Vibrator by Cal Exotics.

Its tongue moves even faster, with about 125 licks per minute on low and 150 on the high­est speed. What’s more, its tongue move­ment has a way big­ger range of motion.

That quick­ly puts the Empowered Queen among my top 3 best sex toys to sim­u­late cun­nilin­gus, espe­cial­ly since I love the firm, point­ed tongue’s focus.

Holding the Cal Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen licking suction pussy pump vibrator in my hand

The oth­er oral sex sim­u­la­tor mech­a­nisms? Lora DiCarlo Filare’s spin­ning beads and the Womanizer series’ air puls­es. This post about the Cal Exotics Empowered Queen focus­es on a back-and-forth tongue move­ment, though.

The Empowered Queen’s 150 licks per minute is quite entic­ing on its own.

The Empowered Queen vibra­tor hasn’t got­ten near­ly the same lev­el of hype as the Her Ultimate Pleasure, and that’s a dis­ser­vice to sex toy shoppers.

Frankly, I think the Queen’s con­trols and func­tions are far supe­ri­or. The down­side? It may not be the best fit for petite peo­ple like me. Overall, though, the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure is a gen­er­al­ist that lets you explore more, while the Empowered Queen is a lick­ing and suck­ing specialist.




Best tongue-flicking vibrators and their similarities

Let’s start with what these two toys have in common.

Both of these licking, sucking sex toys:
  • Deliver true one-way suc­tion rather than thrum­ming air puls­es
  • Have tiny tongues that both flick (fast!) and vibrate
  • Include 2 different-sized cup attachments
  • Have sil­i­cone rims on the plas­tic suc­tion cups for easy clean­ing and hygiene
  • Have long-ass names, due to how the BIG big man­u­fac­tur­ers go about branding
Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen and Fantasy For Her Her Ultimate Pleasure sucking vibrator suction cup attachments

As such, I’ll occa­sion­al­ly call them the Empowered Queen and Her Ultimate Pleasure for short. They offer sim­i­lar func­tions, but their audi­ences do slight­ly diverge.

Also worth noting: NU Sensuelle Trinitii XLR8

I used to rec­om­mend the NU Sensuelle Trinitii instead of the Her Ultimate Pleasure for some users. Why?

NU Sensuelle Trinitii XLR8 sucking licking vibrator
  • Its noz­zle is more focused for cli­toral stimulation
  • The tongue is sharp­er and more pinpoint
  • The handle’s vibra­tions are way stronger and rumblier

For those who want to zoom in on a small area, you’ll like­ly enjoy the Trinitii XLR8 more than the Her Ultimate Pleasure or the Empowered Queen.

For full-vulva pussy pump­ing and flick­ing, though, read on.


Where the Empowered Queen and Her Ultimate Pleasure differ

There’s more to it than how fast they lick —

— though the Empowered Queen’s 150 licks per minute are quite entic­ing on their own.

Upon turn­ing both toys on, the Her Ultimate Pleasure might look like it has an edge in move­ment speed, but that’s only until you apply pres­sure. The Empowered Queen holds up a lot bet­ter when, you know, actu­al­ly in use and shoved up against a clitoris.

The Cal Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen vibra­tor offers the fol­low­ing functions:

  • 3 steady rates and 3 pat­terns of licking
  • Continuous steady suction
  • 6 pat­terns of suction

But also con­sid­er the han­dle shape, suc­tion set­tings, and user interface.

Pipedream Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure and Cal Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen silhouettes

Beyond clitoral suction and licking

Perhaps to oth­er peo­ple, the most strik­ing dif­fer­ence is that the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure has an insertable and vibrat­ing handle.

The Her Ultimate Pleasure’s han­dle mea­sure­ments are fine for those who want a basic, moderate-size insertable vibrator:

  • 5.4” insertable length
  • 1.5” max­i­mum diameter

However, I nev­er gave a shit about that; I found that part of it use­less. Its vibra­tions were too buzzy, the shaft too short, and the curve too slight and non-committal. It adds noth­ing to the expe­ri­ence for me.

That’s my bias as a fiend for deep pen­e­tra­tion and hard thrust­ing, though. And I find the Cal Exotics Empowered Queen’s egg-shaped body super easy to cup in my palm.

Suction settings

Both of these toys have powerful aspirating motors, and both can make me damn near insta-cum. But how they feel in use is quite different.

The Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure’s suc­tion set­tings are all pat­terns with waves of suck-release times (for exam­ple, 4 sec­tions of suc­tion, 1 sec­ond of rest). It’s a tease.

In con­trast, the Empowered Queen allows the user to keep the suc­tion steady until they “freeze” it in place or quick-release it. Once they’re hap­py with the “base­line” vac­u­um inten­si­ty, they can add a pat­tern on top of that if they wish.

California Exotics Empowered Queen tongue flickering vibrator with suction cups detached

If that’s not their thang, the Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen’s suc­tion rhythms and waves are quar­an­tined to a sep­a­rate but­ton. On the flip side, if you do want rapid-pulsing suc­tion rhythms to approx­i­mate a person’s mouth move­ments, there are plen­ty of set­tings for that, too.

The Her Ultimate Pleasure’s slooooow suck-release pat­terns meant that my junk wasn’t always pulled into the cup or in con­tact with the flick­er­ing tongue. There is a workaround: “freeze” the suc­tion at the peak of each wave. However, I wish that option wasn’t mere­ly an afterthought.

Control panel

A vibrator’s buttons and patterns (or lack thereof) can make or break it.

To me, the con­trol pan­el is one of the most notable dif­fer­ences between the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure and Empowered Queen.

These lick­ing sex toys have four but­tons each, but what the con­trols do is quite dif­fer­ent. Here’s what the but­tons do.

California Exotics Empowered Queen vs. Her Ultimate Pleasure tongue vibrators

Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen buttons

  1. Power* + cycle through tongue flicking
  2. Slooow vac­u­um release
  3. Start or stop steady suction
  4. Quick release + cycle through suc­tion patterns

*Long press the first but­ton to turn the device on or off. The delay serves as a slight trav­el lock.

Also, you must use the first but­ton to turn on the whole unit before access­ing any of its mov­ing func­tions. Once it’s on, though, you can con­trol the motors independently.

Fantasy For Her Her Ultimate Pleasure buttons

  1. Power** + cycle through tongue flicking
  2. Cycle through suc­tion patterns
  3. Quick vac­u­um release
  4. Cycle through han­dle vibra­tion settings

**Short press this but­ton to turn on the flick­ing and tongue vibra­tion. Each but­ton con­trols its respec­tive func­tion entire­ly inde­pen­dent­ly of the oth­ers. Long press to turn the motor off.

Suction cup shape and size

Both the Empowered Queen and Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure come with two suc­tion cups of dif­fer­ent sizes. I’ll go into the detailed mea­sure­ments in the next section’s table.

Pussy pump suction cup attachments for Her Ultimate Pleasure and Empowered Queen

The Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure’s attach­ments cov­er a much small­er area. One is an ellipse, con­toured to fit over a vul­va, while the oth­er is cir­cu­lar with a flat rim. You can use the lat­ter for dif­fer­ent eroge­nous zones, such as nipples.

In con­trast, the Empowered Queen’s suc­tion cups are both ovals with curved rims designed for vul­var use. And they’re sub­stan­tial­ly big­ger than the Her Ultimate Pleasure’s attachments.

I’m on the petite side (5’1” and 110 lbs), and the Empowered Queen’s small­er suc­tion cup isn’t per­fect for me, but it works. If you’re even dain­tier than me, the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure would be a bet­ter fit for you.

Consider also whether you’d occa­sion­al­ly want to use the lick­ing vibra­tor func­tion with­out the suc­tion. In such cas­es, I’d steer some­one towards the Empowered Queen. Why? Because the Empowered Queen’s tongue can with­stand more pres­sure before it starts to stall.


Clitoral suction and tongue-flicking vibrator comparison table

Here’s a quick sum­ma­ry of the dif­fer­ences between the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure and Empowered Queen lick­ing vibrators.

Empowered Smart Pleasure QueenHer Ultimate Pleasure
Strokes per minuteUp to 150Up to 100
Tongue size4.5 cm x 2.3 cm3.5 cm x 1.8 cm
Flicking range of motion2.1 cm1.5 cm
Suction set­tingsContinuous steady suc­tion, 6 patterns3 pat­terns
Flicking set­tings3 steady, 3 patterns3 steady, 4 patterns
Suction cup open­ing sizes6.0 x 8.5 cm
6.5 x 9.4 cm
5 x 5 cm
4.5 x 6.8 cm
Handle shapeEgg-shapedSlightly curved, phallic
Charger headPinMagnetic
Price$119 at Betty’s Toy Box$119 at SheVibe

Suction vibrator safety and hygiene

Please listen to your body.

Once you’ve estab­lished a tight enough seal to make use of the tongue vibra­tor, don’t go any fur­ther than that.

Whichever pussy pump you end up get­ting, be atten­tive and ready to acti­vate the release at a moment’s notice. FYI, pry­ing it off with­out let­ting some air puff out first may make the suc­tion pull even harder!

Don’t use intense suc­tion on bro­ken skin or if you have a his­to­ry of blood ves­sel issues. Watch for signs of bruis­ing and dis­col­oration and, of course, dis­con­tin­ue use if irri­ta­tion occurs.

Cal Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen Vibrator suction cups top
For hygiene purposes and cleaning, you can:
  • Detach the plas­tic cups from the unit
  • Get into the nooks and crannies
  • Take the sil­i­cone con­tact rims off the plas­tic cups

The sil­i­cone is super easy to clean by boil­ing in water for 5 min­utes. As for the “tongue,” your best bet for dis­in­fect­ing is wip­ing it down with a mild bleach solu­tion, then wash­ing with soap and water and rins­ing well.

Use only water-based per­son­al lubri­cants with sil­i­cone toys such as the Empowered Queen. Liquid sil­i­cone can degrade the sol­id sil­i­cone, and oil-based lubes tend to be dif­fi­cult AF to wash off.


Which one should you get?

The California Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen tongue-flicking suction vibrator comes with two attachment heads, both with contoured oval openings that fit over the vulva

Who is the Cal Exotics Empowered Queen vibrator’s ideal user?

I’d recommend the Empowered Queen to someone who:
  • Cares a lot about tight con­trol of the suc­tion function
  • Prefers short, quick pat­terns rather than long, teas­ing ones
  • Mostly wants to use the suc­tion cup attach­ments over their whole vulva
  • Wants the flick­ing tongue vibra­tor to deliv­er more pressure
  • Just want great cli­toral suc­tion and licking

Pressure-wise, the Empowered Queen could­n’t live up to a rumbly tra­di­tion­al vibra­tor like the We-Vibe Tango.

For a vibra­tor more flut­tery and less flicky, con­sid­er the Fun Factory Volta.

But if you adamant­ly want a tongue vibra­tor, chances are, it’s the promi­nent range of motion you’re look­ing for, any­way. The Empowered Queen’s 150 licks per minute are still plen­ty fast, and the push is sub­stan­tial, as far as flick­er­ing vibra­tors go.

The Empowered Queen’s stac­ca­to pat­terns rhyth­mi­cal­ly pull air in one way. Puff, puf, puf, puf, puf, puf. Like a mouth might.

Who is the Pipedream Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure licking vibrator for?

The Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure is more for gen­er­al explo­ration. You may like it more if you:

  • Intend to use the suc­tion and lick­ing on many dif­fer­ent body parts
  • Enjoy slow teas­ing with the suc­tion patterns
  • Are down for shal­low pen­e­tra­tion with a no-frill insertable vibe

Closing thoughts

Amazing orgasms, one after anoth­er after another.

Toys aren’t replace­ments for peo­ple, and I don’t think we’re any­where near replac­ing the human dimen­sion of cun­nilin­gus. However, when it comes to oral sex sim­u­la­tors, the Empowered Queen is the cream of the crop so far.

California Exotics Empowered Smart Pleasure Queen licking and sucking pussy pump vibrator review

While rather robot-sounding and… well, mechan­i­cal, its mech­a­nism feels more real­is­tic than oth­er flick­ing vibra­tors I’ve tried in the past. The beefi­er tongue and wider move­ments help.

Plus, rather than puls­ing like a pres­sure wave stim­u­la­tor, or suu­u­u­u­u­u­u­u­u­u­u­u­uck­ing in con­tin­u­ous­ly like a vac­u­um, the Empowered Queen’s stac­ca­to pat­terns rhyth­mi­cal­ly pull air in one way. Puff, puf, puf, puf, puf, puf. Like a mouth might.

If you don’t enjoy that, there’s still the steady seal to increase blood flow to the vul­va and vagi­na while the tongue works its mag­ic. The California Exotics Empowered Queen is decid­ed­ly an exter­nal cli­toral stimulator.

While it’s not the most ver­sa­tile, it’s stel­lar at what the mak­ers chose to focus on: latch­ing on and deliv­er­ing amaz­ing, near­ly hands-free orgasms, one after anoth­er after another.


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5 Responses

  1. G says:

    i real­ly adore how you for­mat your arti­cles, like the sec­tions it’s divid­ed into is just so neat­ly put together ???

  2. Lynn says:

    Oof, those names! I get com­pa­nies do this for mar­ket­ing rea­sons, but the names are just so gen­dered and ridiculous.

  3. Cate says:

    I was kind of skep­ti­cal about these toys when I first encoun­tered them, but now I’m curi­ous to try the Empowered Queen.

  4. JB says:

    I’m nev­er one to jump on a new toy trend, so I wasn’t inter­est­ed when pipedream came out with their ver­sion. The calex­otics ver­sion, on the oth­er hand, is tempt­ing and much more aes­thet­i­cal­ly agree­able. Thank you for includ­ing the video in your review; it real­ly helps in under­stand­ing how the toy works!

  5. Anna says:

    I’m in love with Pipedream’s Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure but it’s appear­ance always makes me wince. Empowered Queen looks much nicer!

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