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4 Shitty Dating Advice Marketing Ploys I'm Sick of Seeing 1

4 Shitty Dating Advice Marketing Ploys I'm Sick of Seeing

I'm grossed out by preda­to­ry online mar­ket­ing towards women deal­ing with con­fu­sion and heartache. I get that, when you're strug­gling, a quick web search here and there can be ther­a­peu­tic for know­ing you're not alone. But it doesn't take long…

5 Characteristics of the Best Sex Shops 8

5 Characteristics of the Best Sex Shops

I've worked with many great sex shops over the years, and many shit­ty ones. It's no mys­tery: the retail­ers I link to over and over again are the ones who give back to their work­ers, shop­pers, and com­mu­ni­ty. Find out…

7 Ways to Create a More Realistic Masturbation Experience 10

7 Ways to Create a More Realistic Masturbation Experience

I get to live at the same time as auto­mat­ed fuck­ing machines and VR porn — doo­dads that peo­ple in past decades only dreamt of. My boyfriend can stick his dick in a mas­tur­ba­tion sleeve that auto­mat­i­cal­ly strokes up and…

[Image: Cy Smash / the writer, a woman with red hair and pink lipstick wearing a blue bra and holding a Doxy Die Cast against her cheek]

9 Ways to Use a Wand Massager with a Partner

"I'm jeal­ous! Women get so many sex toys to choose from," lament­ed some guys in my life. But when I ask whether they've used a vibra­tor with a part­ner or for penile mas­tur­ba­tion, crick­ets chirp. Here's the thing: sex toys aren't…

Exploring the A-Spot (Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone) 11

Exploring the A-Spot (Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone)

The A‑spot — or AFE zone — is one of the most under­rat­ed eroge­nous zones in exis­tence. It’s an area on the front vagi­nal wall, all the way in and far­ther inside than the (osten­si­bly also mys­te­ri­ous) G‑spot. Due to…

New Sensations: 8 Unique Sex Toys to Try 14

New Sensations: 8 Unique Sex Toys to Try

Dildos have been around for prac­ti­cal­ly for­ev­er — at least 28,000 years. Early vibra­tors orig­i­nat­ed as med­ical devices in the 1700s. Since then, new sex toys have come a long way in mate­r­i­al safe­ty, tech­nol­o­gy, and cre­ativ­i­ty. For those seeking…

How to Have Clean Anal Sex: 4 Considerations 15

How to Have Clean Anal Sex: 4 Considerations

Shit hap­pens. We all know that the anus's pri­ma­ry pur­pose is that of an exit. Understandably, clean­li­ness is among the biggest con­cerns about anal sex. It's only sec­ond to per­haps pick­ing the best begin­ner butt toys for com­fort. When doing anal…

The Polite Way to Break Up (With Your Therapist) 16

The Polite Way to Break Up (With Your Therapist)

It's not easy to share your dark­est thoughts with some­one and trust that they'll under­stand — let alone advise with a har­mo­nious bal­ance between accep­tance and growth. And when a ther­a­pist doesn't hear you out, it takes only a minute…

How to "Date Yourself" 17

How to "Date Yourself"

After British Vogue inter­viewed Emma Watson, the media fix­at­ed on the 20 sec­onds where she talked about being sin­gle and "self-​​partnered." It was a con­ver­sa­tion where she spoke about men­tal health, her place in the world as an activist, history…

4 Common Misconceptions About Sex-Positive Bloggers 18

4 Common Misconceptions About Sex-Positive Bloggers

When I reveal that I'm a sex toy review­er, I some­times hear vari­a­tions of "Really?! But you're so quiet/wholesome/[insert anoth­er syn­onym for demure]!" On a bad day, I might clap back, "I'm sor­ry— I didn't real­ize that intro­ver­sion meant not…