Tagged: Dating & Hookups & SW

EVEN MORE Truths about Dating as a Sex Industry Professional: THE UNABRIDGED NOTES 1

EVEN MORE Truths about Dating as a Sex Industry Professional: THE UNABRIDGED NOTES

In March of 2022, Fun Factory USA inter­viewed me for their blog post, “6 Truths about Dating Sex Industry Pros.” I — along with four oth­er sex­u­al­i­ty pro­fes­sion­als — spilled the tea on what it’s like to date us, from…

3 Types of Submissives Who LOVE Cock Cages! 2

3 Types of Submissives Who LOVE Cock Cages!

Why male chasti­ty is more ver­sa­tile than you might think “I want to drink cum out of your ass with a straw,” ini­ti­at­ed a new naughty chat cus­tomer. Oh, you’re one of thooooose peo­ple, my inner mono­logue observed. I’ve heard it all. Male…

All-Around Horny, External Safety, and Internal Stories 3

All-Around Horny, External Safety, and Internal Stories

Am I con­sti­tu­tion­al­ly wired to be hornier than the aver­age woman, or is there a “nur­ture” com­po­nent at play? Today, we exam­ine some of the exter­nal fac­tors influ­enc­ing a wom­an’s libido ⁠— and her will­ing­ness to act on it. I don’t…

Are Creampies a Kink? Why Are People Into Them? 4

Are Creampies a Kink? Why Are People Into Them?

On today’s episode of pas­sion­ate (but play­ful) shit­post­ing seman­tics: are creamp­ies a kink? Cue Carrie Bradshaw typ­ing at her Macbook with the voiceover, “And I couldn’t help but won­der…” Some of my read­ers have said, “If you call them creamp­ies, they definitely…

Diary of a Sex Educator: my job and my dating experiences 5

Diary of a Sex Educator: my job and my dating experiences

I want to find a sanc­tu­ary in my long-term part­ner. That applies dou­bly when you’re in a polar­iz­ing career field. Sometimes, being a sex edu­ca­tor can put me in uncom­fort­able sit­u­a­tions in the dat­ing world, but I have to remem­ber what…

"Pillow Princess": 5 Ways I'm Reclaiming the Title 6

“Pillow Princess”: 5 Ways I’m Reclaiming the Title

The orgasm ratio between me and my male part­ners is eas­i­ly over 10:1 — 10 of mine for every one of theirs. I’m hav­ing a good time, and so are they. So why does the inter­net seem to hate Pillow Princesses…

Artistic diagram of menstrual cycle phases and uterus

How Each Menstrual Cycle Phase Affects My Sex Life

If some­one says that cis women are wildest dur­ing their peri­ods, they’ve nev­er seen me sex toy shop­ping and booty-calling dur­ing ovu­la­tion. One of my Instagram fol­low­ers com­mis­er­at­ed: You’re not alone, girl. My Tinder bio when I’m ovu­lat­ing goes from, “I…

Q&A: What's it like to be a male escort? 7

Q&A: What’s it like to be a male escort?

For me per­son­al­ly, [being a good man] means fac­ing and resolv­ing bias­es that I may have regard­ing the idea of gen­der equal­i­ty and help­ing oth­er men resolve them, too. Guest writer intro­duc­tion incom­ing! The escort­ing indus­try gets a bad rap from…

7 Questions to Unfuck Your Love Life & Yourself 8

7 Questions to Unfuck Your Love Life & Yourself

Can you jour­nal your way to a more ful­fill­ing, bet­ter love life? I cer­tain­ly think so. It takes a degree of intro­spec­tion to dis­cern one’s own: Life goals and core val­ues Motivations under­ly­ing their ten­den­cies Personal his­to­ry and trau­ma respons­es … along with their part­ners’ to…

I'm Ready to Start Dating. Now What? 10

I’m Ready to Start Dating. Now What?

I went on dates with 22 men with­in 13 months between rela­tion­ships. People get exhaust­ed, just hear­ing that sta­tis­tic. While meet­ing peo­ple to date is often sim­ple, it’s not nec­es­sar­i­ly easy — I don’t want to min­i­mize the time and ener­gy it takes.…

5 Top Online Dating Platforms: what my friends & I think of them 15

5 Top Online Dating Platforms: what my friends & I think of them

I’ve had a lot of expe­ri­ence with meet­ing friends, roman­tic part­ners, and busi­ness alliances from the inter­net — nowa­days, it’s an essen­tial tool for social­iz­ing. Naturally, my friends and I have Big Opinions about some of the most pop­u­lar dat­ing apps.…