Category: Kink & Banter

How Do Sex Bloggers File and Pay Taxes? 1

How Do Sex Bloggers File and Pay Taxes?

My life isn’t all orgasms and rain­bows; there’s much unglam­orous admin work behind the scenes. If you want to kill a bon­er, just men­tion pay­ing tax­es. Unfortunately, tax returns are part of the busi­ness of sex blog­ging in the United…

Diary of a Sex Educator: my job and my dating experiences 2

Diary of a Sex Educator: my job and my dating experiences

I want to find a sanc­tu­ary in my long-​​term part­ner. That applies dou­bly when you're in a polar­iz­ing career field. Sometimes, being a sex edu­ca­tor can put me in uncom­fort­able sit­u­a­tions in the dat­ing world, but I have to remember…

A Sex Toy Reviewer's Ethical Code of Conduct 3

A Sex Toy Reviewer's Ethical Code of Conduct

Friends don’t let friends buy sketchy sex toys from Wish. And friends don’t let friends rely on fab­ri­cat­ed sex toy reviews where the writer hasn’t actu­al­ly fucked the toy. My sex toy reviews are writ­ten for humans look­ing for detail and…

"Oops, That's My Kink": 2 Turn-Ons I've Discovered on Accident 4

"Oops, That's My Kink": 2 Turn-Ons I've Discovered on Accident

Do you ever jack off to some­thing unortho­dox and then, in the post-​​nut clar­i­ty, think, “Oh gosh, what have I done?” Sometimes, a kink catch­es you off guard. And some­times, you own it. The human brain is a fun­ny place.…

2 Spicy Outfits I'm Wearing to Dirty Show 22 in Detroit 5

2 Spicy Outfits I'm Wearing to Dirty Show 22 in Detroit

My pho­tog­ra­phy will be dis­played at Detroit’s upcom­ing, world-​​class Dirty Show art exhi­bi­tion! I guess even erot­ic art crit­ics love my col­lec­tion. 🙂 The event takes place over two week­ends, and thanks to Zoey from The White Unicorn shop, I…

"Pillow Princess": 5 Ways I'm Reclaiming the Title 6

"Pillow Princess": 5 Ways I'm Reclaiming the Title

The orgasm ratio between me and my male part­ners is eas­i­ly over 10:1 — 10 of mine for every one of theirs. I'm hav­ing a good time, and so are they. So why does the inter­net seem to hate Pillow Princesses…

Artistic diagram of menstrual cycle phases and uterus

How Each Menstrual Cycle Phase Affects My Sex Life

If some­one says that cis women are wildest dur­ing their peri­ods, they've nev­er seen me sex toy shop­ping and booty-​​calling dur­ing ovu­la­tion. One of my Instagram fol­low­ers com­mis­er­at­ed: You're not alone, girl. My Tinder bio when I'm ovu­lat­ing goes from,…

How discreet is your online sex toy shopping? 7

How discreet is your online sex toy shopping?

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been vic­tim­ized by sex toy pack­ages declar­ing, “VIBRATING MASSAGER” or “HEALTH CARE GADGETS.” I’ll wait. I’ve been there and done that, and I’m not thrilled about the expe­ri­ence. Discreet sex toy ship­ping is essential…

Q&A: What's it like to be a male escort? 8

Q&A: What's it like to be a male escort?

For me per­son­al­ly, [being a good man] means fac­ing and resolv­ing bias­es that I may have regard­ing the idea of gen­der equal­i­ty and help­ing oth­er men resolve them, too. Guest writer intro­duc­tion incom­ing! The escort­ing indus­try gets a bad rap…

7 Questions to Unfuck Your Love Life & Yourself 9

7 Questions to Unfuck Your Love Life & Yourself

Can you jour­nal your way to a more ful­fill­ing, bet­ter love life? I cer­tain­ly think so. It takes a degree of intro­spec­tion to dis­cern one's own: … along with their part­ners' to see if they're com­pat­i­ble and in align­ment. Consider this…

Panam Palmer Cosplay Photos (Cyberpunk 2077) 10

Panam Palmer Cosplay Photos (Cyberpunk 2077)

Because why wouldn't I want to be Night City's sassi­est nomadic heart­throb? This Panam Palmer cos­play is prob­a­bly my first some­what seri­ous attempt at cos­tum­ing, and I'm so excit­ed to just have this jack­et, with all its print­ed details, stitching,…

3 Reasons to Deprioritize Social Media for Adult Businesses 11

3 Reasons to Deprioritize Social Media for Adult Businesses

Imagine that mere­ly men­tion­ing “Link in bio” on your Instagram sto­ry could get your account flagged or delet­ed. A pho­to of a brightly-​​colored, abstract­ly shaped dil­do gets marked as “adult solic­i­ta­tion.” Or an edu­ca­tion­al info­graph­ic about sex­u­al health gets you…