Q & A: basic blow job troubleshooting

Anonymous asked:

Hello, when I give blowjobs to my boyfriend, sometimes he shakes and quivers but recently he has stopped doing that. He also has never come from blowjobs and so I’m wondering if that means I’m terrible at giving oral. He’s really big and thick and my mouth is tiny… I also have a short tongue so I can’t do much with it. Do you have any advice? Please help.

Dear anon,

Some guys are more difficult to make cum than others, and people’s tastes do change over time. I don’t think it means you’re terrible at giving oral. There’s a lot that could be going on, but here’s a basic checklist:

Are the tip, shaft, and balls all being stimulated? Not necessarily all at once, but if you’re like totally ignoring his balls and shaft, that’s something you could change. You could fondle his balls, or stroke the shaft, suck the balls while stroking the tip, etc.

Are you being consistent? Consistency is always important, but some guys need A LOT of it without breaks. If you’re taking a lot of breaks for breathing, then learn to take more efficient breaths in between thrusts. Take a small breath each time you push your head towards him or pull away, and keep track of the rhythm. Breathe in, in in in. Out, out, out, out. And so on.

More applicable to the big dick and small mouth problem: what’s going on with your teeth and throat? Open wide, tilt your head way back to avoid teeth, and stick your tongue out so that the tip of his dick is hitting the area between your tongue and soft palate of your mouth roof.

If your gag reflex is the problem, you can a.) squeeze your thumb tightly in a fist to desensitize your gag reflex (I don’t know how it works, but it does work for a lot of people), or b.) sort of push and curl your tongue back. That way, the tip of his dick will be between the bottom side of your tongue and the hard palate and you won’t have throat problems.

But the point is, the coronal ridge (where the tip joins the shaft) is the most important part, and there has to be some sort of consistent friction and pressure on that particular part of the tip, whether it’s in your hand, or against your cheek, or between your tongue and hard palate, or tongue and soft palate, or way way back in your throat.

Basic-uh-ry, I don’t know how much you know or don’t know about BJs, but those things above should solve some of the more common problems.

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