7 Ways to Create a More Realistic Masturbation Experience

I’ve got gadgets and gizmos aplenty and whosits and whatsits galore!

The 2020s are a decade where I read­i­ly have access to VR porn and body-safe self-thrusting dil­dos — things that peo­ple in past decades only dreamt of.

My boyfriend can stick his dick in a mas­tur­ba­tion sleeve that auto­mat­i­cal­ly strokes up-and-down for him. What a time to be alive!

This post celebrates the bountiful ways to upgrade your jack-off sessions, with options for every budget.
  1. Positioning aids
    • Toy mount­ing cushion
    • Suction cup adapter for Fleshlights
    • Suction cup adapters for dildos
  2. Licking and suck­ing sex toys
    • Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure
    • NU Sensuelle Trinitii
    • VeDO Hummer (blowjob machine for penises)
  3. Handheld fuck­ing machines
    • Velvet Thruster self-thrusting dildo
    • Svakom Alex self-thrusting stro­ker cup
  4. Realistic dual-density dildos
    • My favorites
    • Affordable options
  5. Virtual real­i­ty porn
  6. Free audio erotica
  7. Afterglow and snuggles?

1 Toy mounts and suction cup adapters

My default posi­tion is lying on my back while man­u­al­ly thrust­ing a dil­do — which is com­fort­able, but hold­ing a toy’s base is far from real­is­ti­cal­ly feel­ing like inter­course. Luckily, there are plen­ty of props for rel­a­tive­ly hands-free rid­ing and thrusting.

1a. A toy mount with a pocket

A soft cushion-style mount, like the Liberator Wing, is an option to con­sid­er, espe­cial­ly if your toy of choice does­n’t have a suc­tion cup or oth­er­wise mount­able base. (And even if you are using a suc­tion cup base toy, like the Velvet Thruster Teddy, the Wing’s pock­ets can still hold it.)

Video: Liberator Wing with (original, not suction-cupped) Velvet Thruster Jackie.
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1b. Fleshlight shower mounts

[Image: clear Fleshlight cup with black mount against a window]

People with penis­es are includ­ed in this post, too! This suc­tion cup show­er mount adheres clas­sic Fleshlights to (smooth, hard, and flat) sur­faces of your choosing.

Not sure where to mount your suc­tion cup sex toy? Keep reading.

1c. Double-sided suction cups and bullet cavity adapters

If a dil­do does­n’t already have a suc­tion cup base, you can use a double-sided suc­tion cup as an “adapter” on toys with flared and flat bottoms.

The black ones shown below are by Lust Arts. They come in 4 sizes (exclud­ing the ones for their tee­ny wee­nies), and you can pick up to 3 colors.

The big­ger the suc­tion cup, the more weight it can hold. For dil­dos up to 3 pounds, New York Toy Collective also has a suit­able double-sided suc­tion cup. And if your vibrat­ing dil­do base has a bul­let cav­i­ty, you can use the adapter by Tantus.

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1d. Where to mount your suction cup sex toy

Walls, doors, and head­boards are the most obvi­ous options, but not your only ones. Consider mount­ing your suc­tion cup base dil­do or Fleshlight to a chair or stool, or small­er objects you can move around for max­i­mum versatility:

  • Book
  • A rigid piece of floor tile
  • Small to medi­um mirror 
    • Lovely point of view for any­one watching!

With the small­er objects, you can hold them down with one hand, tilt them, or add firm pil­lows to strad­dle for hands-free angling.

2 Oral sex simulation toys for suction and “tongue” flicking

Flickering and suck­ing toys have been on the mar­ket for a while, but one, in par­tic­u­lar, became a viral sen­sa­tion.

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2a. Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure

This toy’s soft tongue licks and vibrates, while its cup attach­ments apply broad area suc­tion. Think of a pussy pump, but better.

TIP: Pair the Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure with the Liberator Wing or Bonbon for hands-free cunnilingus simulation.

2b. Nu Sensuelle Trinitii XLR8

For a “lick­ing” suc­tion vibra­tor that focus­es more on the cli­toris, opt for the NU Sensuelle Trinitii XLR8. It’s intense and tar­get­ed, with a sharp­er tongue for pin­point sensation.

2c. VeDO Hummer

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For those seek­ing a mechan­i­cal blowjob mas­tur­ba­tor, look no far­ther than the VeDO Hummer. It’s a fresh take on a super-soft TPE sleeve in a Fleshlight-style cup.

The VeDO Hummer’s mains-powered motor deliv­ers up to 109 suc­tion puls­es per minute, with five inten­si­ty options and five speed settings.

Just plug it into the wall and add some lube for plea­sur­able, hands-free, auto­mat­ed blowjob simulation.

2d. Disclaimer

There’s no oral sex sim­u­la­tor that feels exact­ly like oral. However, tongue-flicking toys and auto­mat­ed stro­kers bring you sen­sa­tions that con­ven­tion­al vibra­tors can’t, and that’s worth exploring.

3 Handheld fucking machines: automated thrusters and strokers

3a. Self-thrusting dildos with a realistic stroke length

As far as real­is­tic hand­held fuck­ing machines go, the Velvet Thrusters are my favorite. I like both of their rep­re­sen­ta­tion­al mod­els, the (OG) Jackie and the (mini) Teddy, for dif­fer­ent reasons.

The main take­away is that the Velvet Thruster Jackie is more pow­er­ful but expen­sive and bulky, while the Teddy is more com­pact and costs a lit­tle less. Its but­ton place­ment and suc­tion cup base also make it eas­i­er to use.

Nevertheless, the stroke lengths and speeds of both make for a plen­ty real­is­tic mas­tur­ba­tion expe­ri­ence — and my cervix loves that. Read my Velvet Thruster Teddy vs. Jackie comparison.

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3b. Rechargeable self-thrusting penis masturbator

For those with penis­es, con­sid­er a hands-free Fleshlight-style mas­tur­ba­tor that fucks you! The Svakom Alex does just that, with sev­en auto-thrust modes for mov­ing the soft and tex­tured TPE sleeve up and down inside the hard plas­tic shell. When you’re done, take it apart for easy cleanup.

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4 Realistic dual-density silicone sleeves and dildos

You may have noticed in my Velvet Thruster Teddy video above that I put a VixSkin Colossus sleeve on top of it. (A friend described it as “wear­ing the skin of its enemy.”)

Not only does that make the dil­do girthi­er — but the squishy sil­i­cone also adds a lay­er of flesh­like squish for a more real­is­tic feeling.

Such is the prin­ci­ple behind dual-density dil­dos. They’re firm on the inside for sta­bil­i­ty and squishy and skin-like on the out­side — just like penises.

4a. Best realistic dual-density dildos overall

(Anything with Vixen Creations’ VixSkin, tbh)

VixSkin toys I own:

Vixen Creations toys I don’t own (but oth­er review­ers love):

Dual-density dildos from other brands

4b. Affordable dual-density dildos and cock extension sleeves

I know that I review a lot of expen­sive sex toys, but you don’t have to splurge to get a super realistic-feeling dildo!

The Blush Neo Elite line fea­tures tie-bright col­ors, but the lev­el of squish is delight­ful. (I liked the usable length of the Neo Elite 7.5″ with­out balls.)

Or try the sil­i­cone exten­sion sleeves from Blush’s Performance line.

5 VR porn

With vir­tu­al real­i­ty porn, you’re part of the scene.

BaDoink VR porn is stereo­scop­ic, mean­ing that instead of a sin­gle “screen,” there’s one for each eye. Your brain com­piles the two videos into one 3D scene.

[Image: black and white Sony Playstation VR headset]

Sony Playstation VR headset

And you can splurge on a head­set, but you don’t need to— the cheap­est way to view VR porn is with a smart­phone app and a Google Cardboard view­er to mount it.

Since most of my read­ers already have card­board lying around and a suit­able cell phone, they can DIY a head­set for prac­ti­cal­ly free.

If you’re not super crafty, you can still get a Google Cardboard head­set for free if you join BaDoink VR porn’s stream­ing service.

6 Play an audio erotica story, if that’s more your thing

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Vibease app screen­shot — erot­ic audio book market

Some peo­ple are aurally-oriented rather than visual.

While I did­n’t like the Vibease as a panty vibra­tor, I loved the com­pa­ny’s erot­ic audio­book mar­ket. Many of the fan­tasies are deli­cious­ly per­formed for immer­sion and avail­able for free.

If you have a Vibease toy, the app speeds up its vibra­tions via Bluetooth as the sce­nar­ios get more intense.

If you don’t, you can still enjoy the sto­ries — and maybe pair them with a lick­ing or self-thrusting toy of your choice for more real­is­tic masturbation.

7 Afterglow: Maybe add a weighted blanket and partner roleplay ASMR for simulated snuggles

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I know: mate­r­i­al things can’t replace humans. But in the age of COVID-19, many of us are impro­vis­ing in new ways.

Being wrapped in a weight­ed blan­ket feels like a tight hug envelop­ing you. If you like cud­dling, you could throw in a body pil­low and an elec­tric blan­ket for warmth.

Play the sound of a cat purring or have some­one whis­per in your ears as you drift off to sleep — the per­fect way to end a solo night in.

What’s your favorite way to make self-pleasure feel more realistic and immersive?


Heads up! This post was spon­sored. Everything here is my writ­ing, as always.

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