Jute Rope & Wax Play BDSM Sensation Kit Review

Yes, BDSM can be slow and sensual!

Sliding rope and drip­ping wax against a partner's body can make a pas­sion­ate scene on its own — or it can lead up to some­thing more explosive.

Do you have the patience and imag­i­na­tion for jute rope's versatility?

Here, I've tied up a sex doll in a hip har­ness, with the naughty bits exposed and some dec­o­ra­tive leg wrapping.

In this post's pho­tos, I used Passion Craft Store's jute rope and low-​temperature can­dle on a sex doll and myself, respec­tive­ly. You can get them as a kit or sep­a­rate­ly, with cus­tomiza­tion options galore! My set con­tained three pieces of con­di­tioned jute rope and an unscent­ed paraf­fin candle.

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What is jute shibari rope?

Jute is a nat­ur­al fiber that's rough in its entwined form — think of burlap sacks. As such, jute rope is quite strong and doesn't stretch as much as cot­ton does. For bondage pur­pos­es, jute is often con­di­tioned to make it soft­er and eas­i­er to work with.

The "how" is up to the user's pref­er­ence, but you can coat it with beeswax to smooth out the tex­ture. If it gets dry, add some jojo­ba oil. Also, if you wash your shibari rope, you may want to recon­di­tion it! However, keep in mind that rope los­es ten­sile strength the more aggres­sive­ly you wash it — an essen­tial con­sid­er­a­tion if you ever plan on doing sus­pen­sion ropework.

ADDITIONAL SAFETY REMINDER: If you're new to shibari rope bondage, Autostraddle has a fan­tas­tic 101-​level guide for tops and bot­toms, with safe­ty tips. It's super impor­tant to learn about what pre­cau­tions to take; pay atten­tion to cir­cu­la­tion as you're tying some­one up. You don't want to restrict blood flow. And, as always, have shears at the ready in case you need to undo your rope quickly.

Jute isn't as scratchy as, say, mani­la, but it still tends to be tac­tile and tex­tured. The "tooth­i­ness" can help main­tain fric­tion for knots to stay put.

In blunt terms, though: if you don't like some­what scratchy sen­sa­tions, this par­tic­u­lar rope isn't for you. Don't drag it too hard or fast against the skin.

Plenty of peo­ple love the sen­so­ry array, though! As far as bal­anc­ing dura­bil­i­ty and soft­ness goes, jute bondage rope is a hap­py medi­um for many.

(If you want some­thing soft­er, stick to cot­ton rope.)

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Paraffin wax play: sensation & melting point

Wax play can­dles have low melt­ing points (com­pared to house­hold can­dles) for safe­ty rea­sons. Low-​melt paraffin's is some­where between 125 and 135 °F (52 to  57 °C). It burns slight­ly hot­ter than soy can­dles I've tried before and strad­dles the thresh­old between "Ooh, that's nice" and pain.

How the wax feels against your skin heav­i­ly depends on how high you hold the can­dle. The high­er it is, the more time you allow it to cool down before land­ing. In con­trast, a low­er drop means the wax is rel­a­tive­ly fresh­ly heated.

You can let the liq­uid wax build up and "pour" a big trail or do tiny dots, one at a time. I like melt­ing the wax along one side and using the oth­er as a "ramp" for added con­trol. Just be mind­ful of your hand place­ment as the flames move upward. For safe­ty rea­sons, keep a bowl of water or a wet tow­el handy.

For an added sur­prise, try con­trast­ing the hot wax with a cold steel or glass dil­do.

When you're done, cleanup is a breeze — just peel off the hard­ened wax.

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Customize your jute rope and wax play candle

My shibari ropes were about 8 meters (26 feet) long and pre-​conditioned and dyed black. Passion Craft Store con­di­tions their rope by boil­ing it and apply­ing min­er­al oil after it's dried — each piece mea­sures about 1/​4" (6 mm) across, with a 3‑ply twist.

You can get a dif­fer­ent col­or and more length if you wish, though. I rec­om­mend the 12 meters (39 feet) option (or more!) if you're going to do a dec­o­ra­tive chest or hip har­ness. The sex doll I used was on the thin side, and I had juu­u­ust enough rope. By default, the ends come tied in an over­hand knot.

There are also cus­tomiza­tion options for the can­dle. The one I got is white, unscent­ed, and 1.77" (4.5 cm) wide × 5.38"  (13.8 cm) long. You can, how­ev­er, choose a dif­fer­ent col­or, scent, or size. If you have some­thing more spe­cif­ic in mind, get in touch with Igor and Alesya, the mak­ers behind Passion Craft Store.

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Closing thoughts on jute shibari rope and wax play

Who said that BDSM had to be all hard-​and-​fast? There's plen­ty of room to keep it seduc­tive­ly sim­mery if that's your play style with bondage rope and sex can­dles. What shibari designs would you like to see me model?

Again, if you're new to shibari bondage, Autostraddle has a fan­tas­tic guide with info on rope care and safe­ty.

P.P.S. Passion Craft Store spon­sored this post. All pic­tures here are my own, though!

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