Cervical Orgasms & Stimulation: a BS-Free Guide to Deep Erogenous Zones

Cervical orgasms are per­haps the most polar­iz­ing type of orgasms. Some peo­ple feel like their cervix and the sur­round­ing areas (the vagi­nal for­nices) are divine white light.

Others can't fath­om that play­ing around a body part asso­ci­at­ed with deep OB-​GYN swabs could be remote­ly pleasurable.

Me? I fuck­ing love deep pen­e­tra­tion and thrust­ing dil­dos to mas­sage my cervix. Yes, yes, yes, YESSSS!

So I'm diving in deep to discuss:

• What my cer­vi­cal orgasms feel like
• It may or may not work for you
• Techniques for stim­u­lat­ing the cervix
  • General guide­lines
  • Cervical stim­u­la­tion while fingering
  • During vagi­nal intercourse 
• Dildos for cer­vi­cal stimulation
• What research has found

For me, cervical orgasms are mega-doses of oxytocin

I find that cer­vi­cal orgasms feel like the most potent hit of oxy­tocin (the "love hor­mone") I could take. I've described them as "melt­ing me into a pud­dle of heart-​eyes emo­jis and oxy­tocin." They're full-​body implo­sions cen­tered in my womb, less like waves of plea­sure and more like jets rock­et­ing up.

Cervical orgasms are the rea­son I stopped hav­ing casu­al pen­e­tra­tive sex. I can have my clit rubbed and licked with­out get­ting attached, but if some­one pen­e­trates my vagi­na just right and mas­sages behind my cervix, I'm lit­er­al­ly fucked. I don't claim to KNOW much about love, but cer­vi­cal orgasms FEEL like the answer to every ques­tion I've ever had about it.

Every body's cervix is different

I know what some of you are think­ing: "The fuck are you smok­ing? Getting bashed in the cervix hurts!" Yes, direct bash­ing into my cervix hurts, but it hard­ly ever hap­pens for me. Inserted objects slide eas­i­ly behind my cervix, where the pres­sure usu­al­ly doesn't both­er me at all.

I get it: some vagi­nas can't take deep pen­e­tra­tion from a dil­do or penis with­out cer­vi­cal pain, and that's okay! Perhaps their vagi­nal for­nices don't expand as much as mine do or aren't as eas­i­ly accessed in cer­tain posi­tions. Some won't feel much sen­sa­tion or plea­sure at all.

As well, the major­i­ty of vul­vas need exter­nal cli­toral stim­u­la­tion to reach orgasm, so def­i­nite­ly try adding a clit vibe or fin­ger on the outside.

On the flip side, while penis­es don't read­i­ly fit in front of my cervix, you might find it eas­i­er than me and love A‑spot stim­u­la­tion with a part­ner. Find what works for you! The bot­tom line is that the size of the vagi­nal for­nices varies from one vagi­na to the next.

What you like is not set in stone— give it some time

You may also find that you ini­tial­ly don't feel much plea­sure from cer­vi­cal stim­u­la­tion, but come to love it over time. As a teen with my first dil­do, I expe­ri­enced a rel­a­tive­ly mild cer­vi­cal orgasm. But while I could reach cli­toral orgasms eas­i­ly, I didn't expe­ri­ence a cer­vi­cal orgasm again for anoth­er four years. From there, it just got more con­sis­tent and more intense as I learned more about myself and my sex toy preferences.

Cervical stim­u­la­tion is just anoth­er fla­vor of self-​pleasure to sam­ple. Taste freely, don't feel pres­sured to like any­thing, and remem­ber that everyone's tastes change over time!

How to stimulate the cervix

Okay, let's quickly explain what the cervix is

It's a car­ti­lagi­nous tube that hangs at the top of the vagi­na. Its struc­ture is made of sim­i­lar stuff to the tip of your nose, but it's like a tall donut with a point at the end.

Since it's basi­cal­ly all the way inside, the depth of inser­tion does mat­ter a lit­tle. A phal­lus 6 inch­es or longer is ide­al, but I've also made cer­vi­cal orgasms hap­pen with a 4‑inch penis. It takes more delib­er­ate aim­ing and posi­tion­ing than with a big dick, but it's doable.

General tips for massaging the cervix and surrounding areas

When find­ing the cervix and the vagi­nal for­nices for the first time, I rec­om­mend try­ing with your fin­gers before mov­ing on to a toy or penis. It'll be eas­i­er to aim pre­cise­ly, so you don't miss the spot, or worse, bash direct­ly into the cervix and cause pain.

However, the down­side to using fin­gers is that your cervix might be too deep, which is okay also! Check out my rec­om­men­da­tions for cervix-​loving sex toys.

Also, if the receiv­er is men­stru­at­ing, I rec­om­mend pro­ceed­ing with care or wait­ing for a dif­fer­ent week entire­ly. During men­stru­a­tion, the cervix hangs low­er and is more sensitive.

If you have prob­lems reach­ing deep enough, try hav­ing the receiv­ing per­son bend their legs clos­er toward their chest. The posi­tion­ing short­ens the vagi­na a bit and makes it eas­i­er to go in deep­er. Propping up their hips on a pil­low or cush­ion can also make aim­ing easier.

Using fingers to stimulate the cervix and A‑spot

Finding the ante­ri­or fornix (A‑spot /​ AFE zone) with your fin­gers is sim­i­lar to find­ing the G‑spot, but you go deep­er into the vagi­na. Instead of curl­ing your fin­gers to apply pres­sure just past the pubic bone, you do so all the way in, in front of the cervix. To find the pos­te­ri­or fornix, do the same, but behind. When insert­ing, slight­ly tilt your fin­gers toward the receiver's back wall, and once they're all the way in, angle forward.

UPDATE: At the time that I wrote this, I wasn't very famil­iar with my own A‑spot. It turns out that the most sen­si­tive area in my ante­ri­or fornix is inde­pen­dent of my cervix /​ pos­te­ri­or fornix /​ deep spot. It's also a lit­tle shal­low­er than where I'd stim­u­late my cervix if I were going into the pos­te­ri­or fornix.

Read more about the A‑spot and anterior fornix erogenous zone here!

And, of course, try dif­fer­ent vari­a­tions! Twist your fin­gers or swirl them around the cer­vi­cal os. My favorite is curl­ing fin­gers in a "come hith­er" motion while my part­ner swivels his wrist, so he gets all 180 degrees press­ing into my cervix from behind. Try two fin­gers. Three fin­gers! Try hav­ing your fin­gers fac­ing the bel­ly but­ton side or the back. I like both tech­niques in my pos­te­ri­or fornix.

Stimulating the cervix during intercourse

Enveloping an average-​to-​long dick isn't alone enough to induce a cer­vi­cal orgasm in me. I want it to be like a con­sis­tent mas­sage, with the penis all the way in and tak­ing short thrusts so that it stays in con­tact with my cervix.

Unless they're fast, long thrusts often take the atten­tion away from my cervix and its for­nices. Why? Because the penis spends more time in the shal­low­er parts of my vagina.

Taking your time is also very impor­tant.  The recep­tive part­ner has to be aroused for the vagi­na to relax and tent/​expand to full length. And, of course, arousal is a pre­cur­sor to orgasm.

Take advan­tage of posi­tions that offer deep pen­e­tra­tion, like dog­gy and mis­sion­ary with legs pulled to the receiv­ing partner's chest.

Dildos for A-spot stimulation and cervical orgasms

I've tagged my past reviews of great A‑spot and pos­te­ri­or fornix dil­dos. As well, my list of 10 best dil­dos for cervix mas­sage and A‑spot stim­u­la­tion is com­plete! Here's a preview:

For those who enjoy or want to explore cervix and A‑spot mas­sage, here’s a list of my favorite sex toys for deep pen­e­tra­tion. They come in a vari­ety of shapes, sizes, and mate­ri­als, but there are recur­ring fea­tures among them that make them outstanding:

• Firm enough to tar­get the right spot
• Gentle for­ward curve or tilt for aiming
• Bulbous, swelling, or oth­er­wise defined head

I’ve sort­ed the fol­low­ing list by how (sub­jec­tive­ly) intense the toys are, start­ing with what I con­sid­er the gentlest.

Click here to check out my full list of favorite deep penetration dildos.

The list includes some cervix-​loving, deep spot dildos for girth lovers…

For exam­ple, con­sid­er the girthy and grad­u­al­ly (but dras­ti­cal­ly) curved VixSkin Johnny— a dil­do fea­tured in one of my most pop­u­lar reviews. I call it the "meat-​and-​potatoes" of my masturbation.

Uberrime's Night King is a longer fan­ta­sy dil­do with lots of texture.

And its girth and curve are sim­i­lar to Johnny's, ide­al for stim­u­lat­ing my cervix. If you want some­thing even more girthy 2" max and bumpy for simul­ta­ne­ous G‑spot and A‑spot stim­u­la­tion, try an Avant D3 or Avant D4.

For those look­ing for a luxe splurge, try the njoy Eleven and Le Wand Contour.

…but I have recommendations for long and moderate-​girth dildos too!

Find all of my favorite dildos for cervical orgasms.

And if you're on a bud­get, my top pick for cheap is the Chrystalino Champ.

Shots America makes many Chrystalino glass dil­dos, and the Champ is just one of them. Even though it's straight-​shafted, its bul­bous head is ver­sa­tile AF, great for mas­sag­ing the cervix from behind. You can also get some mild G‑spot stim­u­la­tion from it.

What do scientists have to say about cervical orgasms?

As with many top­ics in female sex­u­al­i­ty and orgasm, the research is in its infancy.

Dr. Barry Komisaruk and oth­ers mapped the region­al brain respons­es of women in an fMRI machine while they self-​stimulated via the cli­toris, vagi­na, or cervix. There were dis­cernible dif­fer­ences, depend­ing on where the stim­u­la­tion occurred:

The puden­dal nerve con­nects the cli­toris, the pelvic nerve car­ries sig­nals from the vagi­na, the hypogas­tric nerve con­nects with the cervix and uterus, and the vagus nerve trav­els from the cervix and uterus with­out pass­ing through the spinal cord.

The vagus nerve doesn't pass through the spinal cord. And because of that, stim­u­lat­ing the cervix can even bring some peo­ple with spinal cord dam­age to orgasm when they oth­er­wise thought that hope was lost.

When a skep­tic dis­putes whether cer­vi­cal orgasms are real, that means that there's research left to do— noth­ing more and noth­ing less. That doesn't mean that cer­vi­cal orgasms aren't there. It would be some severe horse­shit to insist that peo­ple who expe­ri­ence cer­vi­cal orgasms are delu­sion­al, liars, or don't know their bodies.

It was only about 20 years ago that the gen­er­al pub­lic began to under­stand that most of the cli­toris is inter­nal. Let that sink in. It took us that long to accept some­thing so fun­da­men­tal to under­stand­ing female plea­sure. Of course, the less com­mon cer­vi­cal orgasms are less well-studied.

Cervical orgasms or otherwise, what matters is having fun!

There's one main ques­tion I (and prob­a­bly you) care about: does know­ing about cer­vi­cal stim­u­la­tion add fun to my sex life? Yes!

Sure, I could dis­sect that ques­tion. Is the feel­ing com­pa­ra­ble to cli­toral orgasms I've had? Is there a peak and release in the plea­sure that induces vagi­nal contractions?

Does it melt me into a pud­dle of heart-​eyes emo­jis? Do I feel clos­er to my part­ner after expe­ri­enc­ing cer­vi­cal orgasms? Do cer­vi­cal orgasms give me all the ben­e­fits of orgasms?

The short answer to all of these ques­tions is, "yes." I high­ly encour­age oth­er peo­ple with cer­vices to exper­i­ment with it and be open to the pos­si­bil­i­ty. Cervical orgasms changed my sex life. I know that I am cer­tain­ly not the only one, so I'm going to keep shout­ing it from rooftops.

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