Category: Kink & Banter

Breaking Chains: Defining BDSM & Reimagining Roles 1

Breaking Chains: Defining BDSM & Reimagining Roles

Fifty Shades of Grey. Secretary. Chains and whips in Rihanna's 2010 dance-​​pop hit, S&M. When the main­stream thinks of BDSM, they think of a neat bina­ry of: But BDSM is far more faceted and nuanced — with far more shades of…

7 Steamy Skills For Soft Dominant Dirty Talk 2

7 Steamy Skills For Soft Dominant Dirty Talk

Torment with plea­sure and dis­ci­pline with praise. Soft Domination can have a hard-​​hitting psy­cho­log­i­cal impact with tears of over­whelm and ecsta­sy — no chains or whips nec­es­sary. Our focus here is the brain and cun­ning lin­guis­tics. So you want to…

THROWBACK: 5 First Sex Toys, 10 Years Later! 3

THROWBACK: 5 First Sex Toys, 10 Years Later!

400 SEX TOYS! TEN YEARS! It's been a decade since I start­ed col­lect­ing sex toys — and five years since I made my blog into a busi­ness! Can you believe it?! My sex toy col­lec­tion has grown so much since…

Gooner Humiliation Kink Affirmations for Jack-Off Addicts 4

Gooner Humiliation Kink Affirmations for Jack-Off Addicts

Savor this humil­i­a­tion Femdom track for jerk-​​off addicts! There’s some goon­er degra­da­tion, tease, denial, and the tini­est morsel of find­om. As always, kink takes place in a con­trolled envi­ron­ment with con­sent. This post might not be for you if humiliation…

To Rock My World, Stop Asking, "Did You Cum?" 5

To Rock My World, Stop Asking, "Did You Cum?"

Your part­ner deserves bet­ter than flat­ten­ing inti­ma­cy down to a pass/​​fail grade. Go deep­er. You deserve play­ful teas­ing and ban­ter like, “Tell me what you want. Use your words. I know you can do it,” while watch­ing the oth­er person…

The overlap between human sex dolls (dollification) and other kinks.

7 Kinks to Combine With a Dollification Fetish

Ever want to be posed, played with, and fin­ished inside like a fuck doll? Or tossed around? Welcome to the won­der­ful world of dol­li­fi­ca­tion. What is dol­li­fi­ca­tion? In sim­ple terms, dol­li­fi­ca­tion is a fetish for role­play­ing a liv­ing doll. In…

Cum Together While I Clench My Cunt. 7

Cum Together While I Clench My Cunt.

“His pants don’t come off until I orgasm,” I say in my Pillow Princess par­a­digm. Sometimes, though, he cums while his pants are still on, too. Sometimes, we both fin­ish at the same time while nei­ther of us is moving. …

3 Types of Submissives Who LOVE Cock Cages! 8

3 Types of Submissives Who LOVE Cock Cages!

Why male chasti­ty is more ver­sa­tile than you might think “I want to drink cum out of your ass with a straw,” ini­ti­at­ed a new naughty chat cus­tomer. Oh, you’re one of thooooose peo­ple, my inner mono­logue observed. I've heard…

High Libido Woman: Nature or Nurture? 9

High Libido Woman: Nature or Nurture?

Am I con­sti­tu­tion­al­ly wired to be hornier than the aver­age woman, or is there a "nur­ture" com­po­nent that I have inter­nal­ized? Today, we exam­ine some of the exter­nal fac­tors influ­enc­ing a woman's high libido ⁠— and her will­ing­ness to act…

Are Creampies a Kink? Why Are People Into Them? 10

Are Creampies a Kink? Why Are People Into Them?

On today’s episode of pas­sion­ate, play­ful seman­tics: are creamp­ies a kink? Cue Carrie Bradshaw typ­ing at her Macbook with the voiceover, “And I couldn’t help but won­der…” Some of my read­ers have said, “If you call them creamp­ies, they def­i­nite­ly are…