Beginner-Friendly Dildos: THE SOUL-SNATCHING STARTER PACK For All Your Hot Spots

SIMPLE SILICONE & GLIDING GLASS GLIZZIES TO GUSH OVER, FROM BEGINNER TO BRATTY

We're mak­ing vanil­la a spice again with dil­dos I wish I had found soon­er — the frill-​free, stead­fast sta­ples that:

• Would have sky­rock­et­ed my erot­ic exploration
• Unlock poten­tial path­ways to dif­fer­ent kinds of orgasms
• Gently jive with my sweet spots, both deep and shallow
• I love going back to, even when I have hun­dreds of toys

These slick pen­e­tra­tion picks hold a spe­cial place in my heart and my part­ed lips. In oth­er words? They're sim­ple but powerful.

I call it going back to basics, but this list is also for babes bang­ing with breadth and depth. Maybe you're:

• Trying pen­e­tra­tion for the first time or get­ting back into it
• Comfortable with a few fin­gers and penis-​in-​pussy penetration
• Sampling sen­sa­tions all along your walls
• Looking to expand your ecsta­t­ic options

There's some­thing for expe­ri­ence lev­els rang­ing from “bit­ty basics for the total begin­ner” to "this pil­low princess's pen­chant for pre­cise penetration."

Some of the rec­om­men­da­tions are more fil­ing — what I still use for div­ing deep these days.

Sometimes, sim­ple designs deliv­er soul-​snatching sen­sa­tions. Are you ready for it?

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Dildos For Gentle But Deep Penetration

JimmyJane Dillenia Gama

Gama's long, lean, and gen­tle S‑curve was made to go deep.

I felt fer­al, pri­mal clamp­ing upon unbox­ing Gama and its slow­ly slop­ing, sin­u­ous S‑curve, eye­ing every inch I'd envelop.

I des­per­ate­ly need­ed it; I need­ed to clench around it, to rock it behind my cervix and for it to rock my body until I shud­dered and thrashed. And after over 12 years of toy col­lect­ing, I find it hard to believe that I'll ever adore anoth­er glass dil­do more.

JimmyJane's Gama has a looooong, shal­low curve that rocks so eas­i­ly into all my inter­nal hot spots. Use the slen­der side for pre­ci­sion explo­ration or the broad­er side to fill you up:

• 9.7” long
• 1.1” wide on the small “head”
• 0.7” across the thin “neck”
• 1.5” across the thick end

I put this whole soul-​snatching starter pack on pause so that I could spot­light the JimmyJane Gama in its own post and do it justice.

If you've ever longed for longer fin­gers to finesse your cervix into oxytocin-​blissed obliv­ion, JimmyJane's Dillenia Gama is for you.

If you've ever felt dis­missed by the claim that length doesn't mat­ter but girth does, JimmyJane's Dillenia Gama is here to ser­vice your cervix.

I'll say it again: if you love deep fin­ger­ing or think that's some­thing you want to explore, get the Dillenia Gama. If you're unsure where to start, oth­er than that you love it hard, get the Dillenia Gama.

NOTE: You'll get more dis­creet ship­ping with SheVibe!

Want some­thing with more give than glass but still reach­es those deli­cious depths? Uberrime might have what you need.

Uberrime Pegging Dildo (Large)

I wish I could record myself moan­ing into my phone mic and leave my Uberrime Pegging Dildo review at that. It ticks my box­es for a beginner-​friendly deep pen­e­tra­tion dildo:

• Gentle curve
• Abuuuundant length — like, longer than one might usu­al­ly expect 
  • 8” insertable length X 1.35” max diameter
• Bendy and gen­tle enough for the new explorer

I got my Uberrime Pegging Dildo in the stur­dier Shore 30A option, which is still springy and flex­i­ble at this diam­e­ter. As such, I do get some sub­tle G‑spot pres­sure from it, but that's not what draws me to the large Uberrime Pegging Dildo.

I love how thin it is. I love how I can focus its tip on spe­cif­ic parts of my walls and feel around, whether I'm in the mood for mas­sag­ing my cervix prop­er, or the fornix in front of it, or behind it, or clench­ing and twist­ing at a diag­o­nal for some indi­rect pres­sure. (Bodies are fun­ny like that; I love thrust­ing a deep dil­do behind and slight­ly to the left of my cervix — think of a clock's hour hand at 7:30.)

Pound it, nudge it, hold it in place while squeez­ing around it — use the large Uberrime Pegging Dildo as a tool for observ­ing which parts of your walls are the most erot­i­cal­ly sen­si­tive. It gets the job done for me, since I'm already BFFs with my cervix, but it prob­a­bly won't do all the work for you. It’s more a dis­cov­ery tool than any­thing else.

And yes, as the name says, Uberrime's Pegging Dildo was made for butt stuff, but it can be used for either hole. Consider its flex­i­bil­i­ty a fea­ture in gen­tly eas­ing you into pen­e­tra­tion, so you get to know your­self and what you want from an insertable.

Beginner Glass Dildos For Cervix Massage

Go straight to get­ting a glass dil­do if you already know you want it. These picks are rel­a­tive­ly thin with a gen­tle curve — noth­ing too wild.

• Lovehoney's Sensual Glass Double-​Ended G‑Spot Dildo
• JimmyJane Dillenia Gama — oooooh, look at those sweet, sweet curves
• Crave Curve
• Luscious Playthings Curved Glass Dildo
  • I got the “Medium” diam­e­ter and “Large" length

I love see­ing a glass dil­do with a generic-​ass name. It has noth­ing to prove; it just shows up and does its thing unapolo­get­i­cal­ly well.

Me? I loooove how Uberrime's large Pegging Dildo bends and twists inside me, but I'd also love a rock-​hard dil­do in a sim­i­lar shape. (Hence, going back to my Dillenia Gama and Luscious Playthings glass dil­dos again and again.)

These long, thin dil­dos let me seduce my ceil­ing with­out much fric­tion at the entrance, espe­cial­ly if I clench and nudge.

If you need pres­sure clos­er to the door, I have bare-​basic but beau­ti­ful­ly effec­tive rec­om­men­da­tions for begin­ner and prostate play.

Beginner-Friendly G-Spot Dildos

Tantus Sport Silicone G‑Spot Dildo

5.5” insertable length X 1.25” maximum diameter

Many sex toy crit­ics con­sid­er the stain­less steel njoy Pure Wand the holy grail of G‑spot dil­dos for its intense curve and bul­bous head — but whether it's beginner-​friendly is polarizing.

On one hand, it was per­fect­ly engi­neered for what it was meant to do: dig into the front wall and ram damn near per­pen­dic­u­lar, just past the pubic bone — where the G‑spot is for many peo­ple. On the flip­side, the bone and where the G‑spot can be accessed does vary a lit­tle bit from per­son to per­son, so chances are, it's either going to OH FUUUCK SDJFLSDJLSDJF !!!!!!! AAAAHHHH for you, or you're going to hate it.

Sport by Tantus is an afford­able way to test what works for your G‑spot. Similar to what the Uberrime Pegging Dildo is for deep spot stim­u­la­tion, the Tantus Sport has some flex­i­bil­i­ty to ease you into G‑spot mas­sage. Its head is super round like the Pure Wand's and locks into place where the pubic bone dips.

Bendy? It might not be intense enough for some users, sure, but for oth­ers, it's perfect.

Lovehoney's Sensual Glass Double-​Ended G‑Spot Dildo

7” total length | 1.1” across the thin end | 1.5” across the thick end

If you'd rather go straight to the wham-​bam force but aren't ready to splurge on a Pure Wand yet, you're in for anoth­er treat.

Think of this dil­do as the dain­tier dupe of the icon­ic cult clas­sic njoy Pure Wand. If the Pure Wand is the queen, this dil­do is the princess. Use it for shal­low pen­e­tra­tion. Lean with it, rock with it, swiv­el with it, sway it, tap with it.

It has a steep curve for press­ing per­pen­dic­u­lar to the vagi­nal canal — right into the front wall for G‑spotting, dig­ging where the inter­nal cli­toris and ure­thral sponge are both sen­si­tive, with­out elab­o­rate maneu­ver­ing or fin­ger flexing.

Your hand and fore­arm mus­cles may thank you!

It's also light­weight com­pared to the Pure Wand but still stiff enough to ham­mer. (Insert joke about get­ting nailed.)

And yup, I men­tioned this G‑spot glass dil­do in the sec­tion about cervix stim­u­la­tion. It's quite ver­sa­tile because it is double-​ended, after all! I find myself rolling my eyes back when it's all the way in. You can mas­sage the cervix with this glass dil­do or evade it while press­ing on the front wall — dis­cov­er what works for you.

(Further read­ing: a throw­back to some of my first toys from Lovehoney!)

Other G‑Spot Glass Dildos For Budgets and Beginners

• Pipedream Icicles No. 69 or 70 — one very steep, G‑spotty end and one sub­tler, straighter end
• Adam & Eve Eve's Iridescent Curved Glass Fairy Wand — a dreamy-​looking clas­sic shape

These dil­dos fol­low the for­mu­la of a round and bul­bous head, con­trast­ing with a curved neck, com­pound­ed by the unyield­ing hard­ness of glass. Put it in, fol­low the front wall, and pull it while clench­ing until you feel resis­tance when the tip press­es near the pubic bone.

(Read more in my guide to G‑spotting.)

Would you rather go deep­er but keep it sim­ple? I have some­thing for you, too.

Simple But Substantial For Filling

Tantus Silk (Large)

It's in the name: this dil­do is just smooth, sen­su­al per­fec­tion. Some would even call it a bland, basic bish. But it doesn't need to be more than it is:

• A forward-​facing swell that sub­tly press­es on my front wall
• Slips eas­i­ly behind my cervix
• Tantus's old logo graces the base, so you know which way to ori­ent it by feel alone.
• A bit above aver­age size 
  • 7” of insertable length X 1.5" max­i­mum diameter
• Hard, slick, smooth. Tantus's orig­i­nal firm for­mu­la feels substantial.

I don't need any­thing wild.

Tantus's Silk Large does the deep dick­ing for me with its tilt­ed tip and stur­dy shaft. It took time to try dif­fer­ent tem­pos and depths of pen­e­tra­tion and find what worked for me — but once I nar­rowed it down to short, smooth thrusts, all the way in and bot­tom­ing me out, the Tantus Silk Large spoiled me. I so took for grant­ed that its angling was an “easy A” for my cer­vi­cal orgasms.

(Need some­thing with just a slight­ly more pro­nounced swell at the tip? JimmyJane's Cyra might be more your jam.)

Ahh, Memories!

Maybe it seems sur­re­al to see a long-​time dil­do col­lec­tor gush about some­thing so sim­ple and stripped-​down, but it was my first-​ever sil­i­cone dil­do, and we have had a jour­ney together.

This dil­do takes me back to the days when:

• Subby inter­net guys on FetLife would buy me gifts (includ­ing, yes, the Silk Large itself!)
• I was on the kinky social network's trend­ing (Kinky & Popular) page for both my jig­gly ass when hula-​hooping and for my polar­iz­ing hot takes about the bed­room (sound familiar?)

In short, the Silk Large dicks me down good and its sim­plic­i­ty is nos­tal­gic to me.

Gliding Glass Glizzies to Gush Over

These are fill­ing and far firmer.

• Pipedream's Icicles No. 69 and 70 are double-​ended — one side fan­tas­tic for G‑spot and the oth­er for sim­ple cervix mas­sage with some­thing a lit­tle more filling.
• Luscious Playthings’ curved glass dil­do is great as a basic, too
• It's hard to go wrong with Playboy Pleasure's Jewels Glass King when you want a gen­tle curve and for­ward tilt
• Also, check out my guide to girthy real­is­tic glass dil­dos — no swelling curves there, but they might be what you're look­ing for in terms of being filled up

Dildos For Exploring the A-Spot

Uberrime Astra (Large)

7” long x 1.6” wide

Ever eager to angle a toy to the ante­ri­or, in front of the cervix?

Let me sum­ma­rize in a sound: HNNNGGGGGG.

Orgasms with the Uberrime Astra Large are effort­less for me — both from A‑spot stim­u­la­tion and from caress­ing the cervix itself. Thrust, thrust, thrust, thrust, come. Clench, come.

It's a long-​and-​lean dream, only fur­ther enhanced by the firm sil­i­cone. In oth­er words, the Uberrime Astra is sim­ple, per­fect, and only a lit­tle yield­ing. What it lacks in bells-​and-​whistles, it makes up with a tar­get­ed focus on the deep­est recess­es of my vagina.

Astra by Uberrime Dildos is mar­ket­ed as a G‑spot dil­do, but it's even more stel­lar for my (ante­ri­or) fornix when I damn near bot­tom myself out with the broad, knead­ing head. It's long — the large offers 7" of insertable length — and it's boxy in the right places.

But the taper at the tip is nim­ble for pre­ci­sion slip­ping into the A‑spot — it starts super slim and grad­u­al­ly ramps up. Between that and the abun­dant length, aim­ing at the front wall while evad­ing the cervix is easy.

The Uberrime Astra can go in deep­er for me, and from there, its slightly-​rounded edges take the slight­est swiv­el to push me over the edge.

Another plus? Working the Uberrime Astra inside is easy because it's so gradual.

Try it all along your front wall and see what you like more — would you rather keep it shal­low along your G‑spot or all the way in, on your A‑spot? I pre­fer the lat­ter, but you might find its G‑spotty sub­tle­ty “just right." And that's the beau­ty of explo­ration — you might find joy and jol­lies where I didn't, and vice versa.

Glass A‑Spot Dildos For the Anterior Fornix

• Yet anoth­er shout-​out to Lovehoney's Sensual Glass Double-​Ended G‑Spot Dildo! It's just so deli­cious­ly versatile.
• Likewise for Pipedream's Icicles No. 87
• NS Novelties’ Glass G‑Spot wand shape is super severe for a begin­ner to go all the way in with — but if you're think­ing, "Fuck it, I'm crav­ing more,” it's afford­able and it's one of my all-​time faves for the front wall.

Next up, for those who want some­thing more gen­tle, I have rec­om­men­da­tions in vary­ing com­bos of squishy, thin, and short. There's a lit­tle some­thing for any­one new to or get­ting back into penetration.

Affordable AF Mid-Sized Realistic Dildos

If you're already some­what com­fort­able with pen­e­tra­tive play, these real­is­tic dual-​density dil­dos are budget-​friendly and nice­ly squishy on the out­er layer.

Such mem­bers make a fan­tas­tic fit for begin­ners seek­ing a nice­ly average-​sized insertable:

• Solina's Mega Large is mat­te with a pret­ty gra­di­ent head, frenu­lum, and veins that aren't too wild. Its size, soft, skin-​like out­er lay­er, and love­ly vas­cu­la­ture delight the eyes and lips.
• Blush Novelties’ Neo Elite 7” dil­do with­out balls fea­tures a graaaaaaad­ual taper and squishy tip, mak­ing it eas­i­er to work in

They're flex­i­ble and gen­tle but long enough to go deep and slip behind my cervix. Mmmmm.

Indeed, there are oth­er real­is­tic dil­dos I adore more, but the Solina Mega and Neo Elite lines are my go-​to begin­ner dil­do rec­om­men­da­tions if you're new to sex toys but not new to penetration.

If an average-​sized penis's pen­e­tra­tion is enough to intim­i­date you, you still have options!

Bitty Basics For Getting Comfortable With Penetration

We'll get sim­ple with some bare basics and explore some more play­ful phalluses.

Sensuality in Several Sizes

First, many of the above sil­i­cone dil­dos come in mul­ti­ple size options!

Check them out:

• Uberrime Astra — 3 sizes — broad head for front wall massage
• Uberrime Pegging Dildo — 2 sizes — long and lean
• Uberrime Sensi — 3 sizes — short and squishy
• Tantus Silk — 3 sizes — firm, sleek, minimal
• Luscious Playthings’ glass dil­dos range from XS to XL

(Uberrime's size selec­tion is just one of many rea­sons I love them!)

Of course, the short­er options will hit dif­fer­ent­ly — you might not be able to go as deep with them, but that's okay if you're just get­ting used to girth.

Next, I'd rec­om­mend the fol­low­ing again here:

• JimmyJane's Gama
• Lovehoney's Sensual Glass Double-​Ended G‑Spot Dildo

They both offer a rel­a­tive­ly thin end that's still stur­dy, stun­ning, and alluring.

I also can­not high­ly enough rec­om­mend Luscious Playthings’ made-​to-​order mod­i­fi­ca­tions if you crave length with­out bulk. Just let them know what adjust­ments to their glass dil­dos you want, with­in reason.

Finally, because there are a wide range of rea­sons some­one — begin­ner or not — would want to use a small­er dil­do, I want­ed to include a wide range of sen­sa­tions and price points that go beyond “You can just buy a dif­fer­ent size.”

I want you to feel fuck­ing fantastic.

Vibrators for Shallow Penetration

Shallowing vibra­tors were made for tip drilling with just the slight­est, shal­low­est pen­e­tra­tion — hence the term, “shal­low­ing." Simply rock­ing these vibra­tors can rock your world, make sex fun again, or any­thing in between.

Kiwi Trigger Point Massager

Kiwi by The Pelvic People is an award-​winning, multi-​functional mas­sager made to man­age painful or uncom­fort­able sex in a way that feels good.

Its vibra­tions are mid-​tier — decent strength and rum­ble — but the shape is where Kiwi's fly­ing col­ors show.

I love the range of curves, edges, and angles for dif­fus­ing or focus­ing vibra­tion on a wide range of bits, inside and outside.

My favorite ways to use it include:

• The edges along my labia majora
• The broad­er curved face cov­er­ing more of my vulva
• The small end at the vagi­nal open­ing — with or with­out shal­low penetration
• Lowering my weight onto the “cor­ners” to press against my hip flex­ors, like a myofas­cial release ball
• On my cli­toris, duh!

Kiwi eas­es tight­ness at mul­ti­ple sites on your pelvis, all of which can con­tribute to pelvic floor imbal­ances and entry pain. (Raise your hand if you're ever sore from clench­ing all day!)

Painful sex is so com­mon, but it doesn't have to be clin­i­cal — with Kiwi, gen­tly shal­low­ing and work­ing with your body can start to feel play­ful again.

Ring My Bell by Playboy Pleasure

This vibra­tor is so fuck­ing good, but it's far less sub­tle than Kiwi. Playboy's Ring My Bell mas­sager offers gen­tle, shal­low pen­e­tra­tion for the inside, and its thrum­ming on the out­side is seri­ous. It was not for the faint of clitoris.

Consider it a poten­tial next step if you're a sea­soned schlick­er with the exter­nals but want to play with the inside just a lit­tle bit to bump the cli­toris both inside and outside.

Dilator Sets for Easing Into Penetration

Lastly, those who want to become com­fort­able with any pen­e­tra­tion should know that dila­tor sets are an option.

They're like no-​frill dil­dos for slow­ly relax­ing and expand­ing your capac­i­ty — anoth­er rea­son why painful pen­e­tra­tion (think vagin­is­mus or pelvic floor ten­sion) doesn't have to be the end of pleasure.

• Blush Novelties makes a soft 4‑piece sil­i­cone dila­tor kit that ramps up from 0.5" to 1.25” — all the in-​between steps, tak­ing you from a fin­ger to an aver­age dildo's diameter.
• VWELL's dila­tors are firmer but come in more sizes, which is nice if you want small­er increments

If you're unsure of which size to use, you can mea­sure your fin­gers and use them as a start­ing point for comparison.

Exploring a hot spot, return­ing to pen­e­tra­tive play, or try­ing pen­e­tra­tion for the first time doesn't have to hurt — start slow, pace your­self, and lis­ten to your body. Go as deep as you dare.

I sure wish I had known about all of these toys, from slick deep-​dicking sil­i­cone to shal­low­ing to dila­tors, when I was younger!

Beginner-​friendly doesn’t have to mean bor­ing. Many of these glim­mer­ing glizzies can snatch souls — per­haps even yours, if you’re lucky.

FAQ: All About Dildos For Beginner Penetration & Exploration

Q: Do I need lube? What kind?

A: I always rec­om­mend using lube with toys! A water-​based lube is the most ver­sa­tile and gets along well with toys and con­doms. In con­trast, liq­uid silicone-​based lubri­cant lasts longer but can dam­age sol­id sil­i­cone toys — use it on glass, met­al, or with a partner.

(Read all about my favorite lubes, lotions, and potions!)

Q: What if it feels uncomfortable or painful?

A: Listen to your body! Consider dis­com­fort a sign to slow down and pain a sign to stop what you're doing. You don't have to end the ses­sion right away — ways to piv­ot include:

• Pulling back and hold­ing the toy in place at a com­fort­able spot
• Pausing and tak­ing a few deep breaths to reset
• Adjusting the angling

Remember: there's no rush to get your toy in on any set time frame. And if pen­e­tra­tion isn't doing it for you one day, it's okay to:

• Try again anoth­er day
• Stick to exter­nal massage
• Seek out a small­er, smoother, or soft­er toy

If pain per­sists, it's okay to seek sup­port from a gyne­col­o­gist or a pelvic floor ther­a­pist and ask about your next steps. Exploring your body is for you to enjoy, and you deserve to feel good!

Q: What sex toy materials are best for beginners?

Pretty much every toy in this shopper's guide is glass or sil­i­cone, because these mate­ri­als are safe for inser­tion, easy to clean, durable enough to last for life with prop­er main­te­nance, and can be affordable.

There are oth­er options for body-​safe mate­ri­als, such as stain­less steel, porce­lain, and prop­er­ly sealed wood, but they tend to be prici­er. Glass and sil­i­cone dil­dos are the eas­i­est for a begin­ner to access.

Sensation-​wise, what's best is very indi­vid­ual. I'm per­son­al­ly hype for the pres­sure of glass and firmer sil­i­cone, but some oth­er users may pre­fer some­thing soft and skin-​like — so I includ­ed options from sup­ple to firm to rock-hard!

Q: Why are some toys so much more expensive than others?

So many fac­tors play into the cost of a toy, such as:

• The amount of mate­r­i­al used
• The qual­i­ty of the mate­ri­als used — glass and sil­i­cone are both body-​safe when prop­er­ly han­dled, but some sil­i­cones are more rig­or­ous­ly test­ed, and some glass com­po­si­tions are stronger than others
• How long does it take to make
• The scale of the com­pa­ny — an arti­san may be spend­ing more time per unit if they're mak­ing items to order or in small­er batch­es than an estab­lished mass manufacturer
• How much goes into the mar­ket­ing and packaging

A high­er price doesn't always mean bet­ter qual­i­ty. These begin­ner dil­do rec­om­men­da­tions strike a bal­ance — they're all body-​safe and good at what they were designed to do. I've includ­ed a wide range of prices because every­one deserves access to safe sex­u­al pleasure.

Start here. Moan later.