FAQ: dildo angling & vaginal erogenous zones

I love deep dick­ing; if you're new here, it won't take you long to notice that.

And while I review a sig­nif­i­cant share of cli­toral toys — and I speak up about the cli­toris being the MVP for most vulva-​owners — the cervix is the MVP for me.

More length means mas­sag­ing my cervix, and girth (even if it's as sim­ple as an average-​sized penis tip drilling) can rub the inter­nal parts of my cli­toris.

It ini­tial­ly took me time to find erot­ic angles I love. Still, because I stayed (fig­u­ra­tive­ly) open to pos­si­bil­i­ties, I found a wide range of ways to cum again and again.

How to find dildo thrusting angles that work for you

Here's my modus operan­di.

I get curi­ous about what each area feels like and treat it like an art­sy exper­i­ment. My walls are like a can­vas or sketch­book page, and I ask:

• "Where do I feel like 'draw­ing' today?"
• "What shapes do I want to make?"

Here are just a few zones that worked for me, in a nutshell:

• Going all the way in, behind my cervix, with a long glass dil­do, and adjust­ing the tip's tilt or rotat­ing it slightly.
• Staying shal­low with a flex­i­ble dil­do but bend­ing it so the out­er por­tion slides or bumps on my clit dur­ing short strokes
• Staying shal­low, push­ing the tip against the front wall (on the G‑spot), just past the pubic bone

Some tools are more pre­cise for "draw­ing" on a spe­cif­ic spot, while oth­ers are broad­er, like in the clit-​grinding example.

If you find it dif­fi­cult to orgasm with pen­e­tra­tion alone, that's total­ly nor­mal. You may want to look up the coital align­ment tech­nique or find a clit toy to pair with your dil­do if you haven't already. Or focus on the exter­nals with­out pen­e­tra­tion; your plea­sure is for you, boo!

Personally, I find it eas­i­er to orgasm with pen­e­tra­tion, so I want­ed to share more of what I like.

What are these internal erogenous zones called?

Let's name the hot spots and get more spe­cif­ic. You don't have to think of it as a list of terms to remem­ber; think of it as more ways to play with shapes and strokes on a canvas.

I've spot­light­ed the must-​reads in bold.

G‑Spot Stimulation

The G‑spot is the gen­er­al area where the inter­nal cli­toris and ure­thral sponge are espe­cial­ly sen­si­tive on the front wall. For some peo­ple with vagi­nas (like myself), the G‑spot is very shal­low — about 1–2 inch­es inside, and either where the pubic bone dips, or just past it. Sex toys with steeply curved shafts or pro­trud­ing heads are gen­er­al­ly best for G‑spot stimulation:

Further Reading

• The soul-​snatching starter pack — sim­ple inserta­bles for all your inter­nal eroge­nous zones, from dain­ty dila­tors to glass glizzies
• Jimmyjane Dillenia Gama review — my all-​around favorite glass dil­do, great for G‑spot, A‑spot, and cervix massage

A‑Spot Exploration

The A‑spot (also known as the AFE or ante­ri­or fornix eroge­nous zone) is also on the front wall, but a lit­tle deep­er than the G‑spot. It's almost all the way in, just shy of the cervix. Toys with a shal­low curve or forward-​tilting head are also great for A‑spot stim­u­la­tion:

• NS Novelties' Glass G Wand is my favorite A‑spot dildo
• But, again, Jimmjane's Dillenia Gama does it all, as far as dil­dos go
• And if you want an A‑spot toy with vibra­tion, I gotchu too

Cervix Massage

The cervix, or neck of the womb, isn't mere­ly the end of the vagi­na. It's a tubu­lar struc­ture that's packed with nerve end­ings. The key to finess­ing it is to let objects slide in front of or behind it.

Sex posi­tions that can help lever­age pen­e­tra­tion depth include:

• Missionary with the recep­tive partner's legs pulled toward their chest
• Cowgirl with hips elevated
• Really face-​down, ass up doggy-style

further reading about cervix stimulation:

• Cervical orgasms & stim­u­la­tion: a bs-​free guide to deep eroge­nous zones
• Velvet Thruster review: self-​thrusting dil­do & portable fuck­ing machine
• L'Acier Capo review and a reader's rave
• All my past reviews of cervix mas­sage dildos

Perineal Sponge

To stim­u­late this area, you play as if you're press­ing on the anus through the back vagi­nal wall. Toys with bumps and tex­tures, like the Chrystalino Champ, Uberrime Aqua-​King, and Uberrime Xenuphora, are great for stim­u­lat­ing the per­ineal sponge.

And, of course, almost every­one has a butt!

Closing Thoughts

I was shocked the first time I read that most women nev­er insert when mas­tur­bat­ing. Playing with only the cli­toral glans is like jerk­ing off a penis by just touch­ing the tip. It can get the job done, but it’s often way more fun to go beyond. What’s more, hand­held fuck­ing machines are more com­pact than ever. Hooray for lazy mas­tur­ba­tion for unat­tached pil­low princesses!

This FAQ was adapt­ed from a very old post: How to "Date Yourself"

Six years lat­er, I prob­a­bly wouldn't approach the top­ic in the same way I did back then, but I'm glad I have these quick resources to pull up for new readers