I stop over­think­ing. I just thrust and cum and thrust and cum.

My whim­pers are enough to say I delight­ed in the Dakota XL— eas­i­ly in the top 2 of Dee’s Big Daddies dil­dos I’ve tried. And there's a very spe­cif­ic rea­son it's near and dear to my heart, beyond its eccen­tric exterior.

(Hint: my cervix and my goril­la grip coochie had a lot to say.)

The slop­ing swell dif­fus­es the pres­sure just enough that I bare­ly con­scious­ly reg­is­ter that it's real­ly that big. I know it's big, but my brain focus­es more on, 'That feels real­ly fuck­ing good. Do that again and again.'

First impressions of Dee’s Big Daddy Dakota

Dee's Big Daddies’ great­est traits con­verged beau­ti­ful­ly in the Dakota XL:

• How freak­ing pret­ty is the pearly pig­ment swirling — stripes and stra­ta, like lay­ers of beau­ti­ful­ly carved rock in this glis­ten­ing cock
• We love fore­skin and uncut cock representation
• And skin tones! Choose from one of five flesh shades
• The engorged shaft and swollen under­side (tech­ni­cal term: cor­pus spon­gio­sum) give my walls some­thing nov­el to grip around while thrust­ing in dif­fer­ent "posi­tions," whether the balls are fac­ing my clit or my thigh
• It's quirky in its car­toon­ish­ness — asym­me­try that some­one Japanese might call wabi-​sabi or fukinsei

You don't have to take my word for it; Dee's Big Daddy Dakota prod­uct descrip­tion reads:

With a forward-​bent shaft, lop­sided balls, and a slight twist, the Dakota is a per­fect rep­re­sen­ta­tion of just how diverse the human coun­ter­parts can be! With a good upper shaft girth, bun­dled uncut fore­skin, sub­tle tex­ture, and a slight­ly mat­te fin­ish, the Big Daddy Dakota was designed as a thrust­ing toy.

Yes, I agree with that descrip­tion, and also, I don't think it does jus­tice to Dakota.

hid­den gem” and “sec­ond to none

cus­tomer review

The oth­er users' rave reviews might. But here's my take.

The shaft angle, lop­sided balls, and twist aren't just aes­thet­i­cal­ly eccen­tric; Dee's Big Daddy Dakota XL's wabi-​sabi fits my walls' wabi-​sabi, too.

Dee’s Big Daddy Dakota XL measurements

My Big Daddy Dakota is in the XL size, which measures:

• 7” insertable length
• 1.7” across the head
• 2.1” max­i­mum diameter
• 2” just above the balls

It’s a Shore 0050 sil­i­cone den­si­ty — like the firm­ness of cool gum­my can­dy — with a Vac-​U-​Lock port for using with a fuck­ing machine or slot­ting in a bul­let (or port plug), but you have plen­ty of cus­tomiza­tion options:

• Choose from 31+ col­ors to mix and match — up to 3 col­ors swirled from balls to tip
• Shore 0030 or Shore 0030 den­si­ty (more on that lat­er in this post)
• Vac-​U-​Lock port or not?
• 5 sizes, from medi­um (Dee’s Wee Daddy) to XXXL

Here’s how the five sizes mea­sure up:

• M — 4.5” insertable length x 1.4” max­i­mum diameter
• L — 6” x 1.8”
• XL — 7” x 2.1”
• XXL — 8” x 2.6”
• XXXL — 9” x 2.8”

How Big Daddy Dakota feels in use

Yes, it's a thrust­ing toy, but also, the sub­tle ramp­ing up in mid-​shaft girth spoils my mus­cles from the inside. Not a focused G‑spotter, not just a gen­er­al stretch (though that feels nice, too), but some­where in between: a lit­tle extra resis­tance every time it pulls back, and gen­tle cervix pres­sure when it push­es in.

For those who don't know my sto­ry, I've been diag­nosed with goril­la grip coochie — a strong, hyper­ton­ic pelvic floor that's chron­i­cal­ly clenched, some­times with dull pain on the left wall.

Maybe your walls are a bit par­tic­u­lar, too.

I've found that plac­ing a lit­tle bit of extra pres­sure on my left wall goes quick­ly from "Ooh, that's nice," like I'm get­ting a gen­er­al mas­sage, to "Oh, fuck" and whim­per­ing and gasp­ing at the next deep thrust.

It's ther­a­peu­tic for the body, mind, and soul.

How’s the girth?

My mus­cles crave clos­ing near the bot­tom of the cock, then the mid-​shaft stretch — gen­tly alter­nat­ing between calm­ing and excit­ing my muscles.

I know, "gen­tle" is an odd choice of words for some­thing this thick — 2.2 at the widest — but the slop­ing swell dif­fus­es the pres­sure just enough that I bare­ly con­scious­ly reg­is­ter that it's real­ly that big. I know it's big, but my brain focus­es more on, "That feels real­ly fuck­ing good. Do that again and again."

I stop over­think­ing. I just thrust and cum and thrust and cum.

Hot spots & angling

The tapered tip can slip behind or in front of my cervix — what­ev­er I'm in the mood for — when I insert the whole shaft.

The inter­nal cli­toral pres­sure. The cervix nudge. The lop­sided bulge against the left side. The cur­va­ture of the head. It's such under­stat­ed per­fec­tion. (One cus­tomer called it a hid­den gem and sec­ond to none.)

Sometimes I thrust Dakota with the balls fac­ing my clit (12:00) so I can savor the shaft's tilt, some­times at an angle (2:30) so my left wall gets a bit more pres­sure, and some­times I twist between 11:00 and 1:00.

Dee’s Big Daddy Dakota XL vs. Dante XL

Dee's Big Daddy Dakota XL wasn't made for sim­ple "wham-​bam" womb-​bludgeoning the way Dante XL's slick, curved shaft was — at least for me, with how deep I usu­al­ly like it.

Dante XL in Shore 0030 ser­vices my cervix and gives some over­all stretch.

Dakota XL in Shore 0050 com­mands atten­tion at the tight­est part of my vagi­nal open­ing, way fur­ther down.

The tip already feels good to wrap around, and then there's more, like 360 degrees of "fuck yes," while still being smooth enough to glide freely with min­i­mal stalling unless I'm about to cum.

Then I clench tighter and have to thrust a lit­tle hard­er. But the added resis­tance makes me want to cum hard­er and grip even more tight­ly, and the cycle continues.

Shore 0030 or Shore 0050 silicone?

Remember how I said that, with Dante XL in the soft­er 0030 den­si­ty, some­times I might eject the dil­do while cum­ming if I'm not care­ful about keep­ing it in deep (in oth­er words, if I've lost my mind and thrust vigorously)?

Yeah, it's a good occa­sion­al prob­lem to have. And hon­est­ly, kind of fun­ny. And a non-​concern if I've hooked it up to a fuck­ing machine on a short­er stroke length setting.

But it's even less com­mon with Dakota XL in the firmer Shore 0050. The (rel­a­tive­ly) firm, straight shaft wants to stay in, whether I'm using short strokes or long strokes. But it's still medi­um den­si­ty by indie stan­dards, like cool gum­my can­dy. (Read: less flop­py than Squarepegtoys' Super Soft for­mu­la, and cer­tain­ly firmer than VixSkin.)

And I think 0050 was the right choice here; Dakota XL's strength is in struc­ture. My Dante XL was more sen­su­al in soft­ness against the cervix and the angled extend­ed reach.

Verdict: my favorite Dee’s Big Daddies dildos

I love both, and I find them both sen­su­al, but I crave them for total­ly dif­fer­ent things; they're spe­cial­ized beyond "big fuck­ing dils."

I enjoy many dil­dos by Dee's Big Daddies and its sis­ter stu­dio, Uberrime, but Dakota stands out as just what I need when I want a slow, sat­is­fy­ing build with many orgasms that flow back-​to-​back. I'm hyper-​aware of every lit­tle part of my vagi­nal canal light­ing up, from my lips get­ting pulled apart, to my throb­bing walls, to the areas in front of and behind my cervix.

Dee's Big Daddy Dakota was just what I need­ed at the time.

Other Dee's Big Daddies my cunt craves

Dakota, Dante, and Dallas are all fuck­ing machine com­pat­i­ble for cunt-​clenching, eye-​rolling erot­ic ecsta­sy. And they're butt-​safe for the booty-​bang babes, too.

• Dante XL: the cervix ser­vicer for div­ing deep (read my DBD Dante review)
• Dallas XL: juicy head, curved shaft, big stretch, soft sil­i­cone feels like it's meld­ing with me, like a lover where I can hard­ly tell where they end and I begin
• Find oth­er real­is­tic dil­dos I love!

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