7 Reasons I Love b-Vibe's Vibrating Fisting Dildo

I don't keep count of how many peo­ple I have slept with any­more; I count how often I've been the first per­son some­one has fisted.

And as some­one who's walked many part­ners through putting their hand inside me, I must say: the sex edu­ca­tors who designed b‑Vibe's vibrat­ing fist­ing dil­do knew what they were doing.

I notice so many lit­tle details that add up to make the fist­ing train­ing expe­ri­ence easy-​breezy, with less fric­tion and more focus on plea­sure. Prep for as long as you need, and pound it when you're ready!

After try­ing this fist­ing dil­do, I can't unknow how smooth fist­ing warm-​up can be. But don't be fooled — easy begin­nings can still lead to ecsta­t­ic overwhelm.

Vibrating fisting dildo vs. my hand

Why might some­one crave a fist­ing dil­do instead of sim­ply using fin­gers or a hand?

Let's say the qui­et parts out loud:

• Some peo­ple might find it uncom­fort­able con­tort­ing to fit their hand inside their own ori­fice. And doing all that while main­tain­ing a com­fort­able wrist angle? Forget it!
• It can be eas­i­er for some users to lever­age their weight by squat­ting over and rid­ing a mod­er­ate­ly firm fist­ing dil­do with a suc­tion cup
• They or their part­ner might have big­ger hands than this fist­ing dildo
• Someone's hands might not have the mobil­i­ty to fold and com­press for long ses­sions. Yes, fist­ing is an ath­let­ic endeav­or for the receiv­er. But have you con­sid­ered that it might be super strain­ing for the giver's anato­my, too?
• This sil­i­cone fist­ing dil­do with soft­ened knuck­les is way more for­giv­ing than actu­al hands with sharp and firm knuck­les and (of course) fingernails
• Vibrations can help someone's pelvic floor relax to let more in
• This hand dil­do could also poten­tial­ly use less lube than an actu­al hand, as I'll explain in a bit

There are so many rea­sons to love fist­ing dil­dos, includ­ing b‑Vibe's vibrat­ing sil­i­cone version.

The vibra­tions trans­fer well through the sil­i­cone and can be used cli­toral­ly as a warm-​up and take the expe­ri­ence from 'over­whelmed' to 'orbitofrontal cor­tex tem­porar­i­ly shut down.'

shape and size for fisting beginners

It's juu­u­ust right, and I'm not just say­ing that because b‑Vibe's 10.5" fist­ing dil­do is about the size of my hand.

I've been told that my "tiny" hands "don't even count as fist­ing" — which would almost be fight­ing words, if it weren't for the fact that fist­ing dil­dos in more than one size make sense.

Of course, giv­en the choice between a big hand and a small hand, a fist­ing begin­ner would rather start with a dainty-​but-​still-​adult-​sized hand before expand­ing (lit­er­al­ly).

b‑Vibe's hand dil­dos come in two sizes — a small­er one with vibra­tions, and a big­ger one with­out.

b‑Vibe 10.5” fisting dildo measurements

Note: The max­i­mum cir­cum­fer­ence isn't exact­ly the max­i­mum diam­e­ter × π because the fold­ed hand's cross-​section isn't quite round. It's a lit­tle small­er because of the way the palm is cupped.

Someone's hands might not have the mobil­i­ty to fold and com­press for long ses­sions. Yes, fist­ing is an ath­let­ic endeav­or for the receiv­er. But have you con­sid­ered that it might be super strain­ing for the giver's anato­my, too?

b‑Vibe vibrating hand vs. other first trainers

Here's how the b‑Vibe Vibrating Silicone Hand Fisting Dildo looks next to:

• A soda can
• Tantus's Fist Trainer (about 2.7" across the widest diameter)
• My own hand and forearm
• The biggest dila­tor in my VWELL XL dila­tor kit

And it's easy to say, "How much thought could pos­si­bly go into a fist­ing dil­do? Can't you just life-​cast a hand?" if you've nev­er expe­ri­enced fist­ing yourself.

It's not just that it's tapered like a fold­ed hand for fist­ing; it's also slight­ly styl­ized and sim­pli­fied, so the pres­sure isn't as sharp. The fin­gers are slen­der, the girth ramp-​up is grad­ual, the knuck­les are smoothed out along the back of the hands, so it's more even­ly cone-​like, with less pro­nounced edges.

Personally, I would have fold­ed my hands more tight­ly than the mod­el for this fist­ing dil­do did, but I under­stand why they didn't, because…

OMG! THE LUBE RESERVOIR!

The spoon-​like hol­low holds some lube — just the right amount. It's just enough to dis­perse lube along the front wall (yay, less ure­thral irri­ta­tion) with­out hog­ging all that much liq­uid (or drip­ping off the surface).

Its con­cav­i­ty also means less pres­sure on the ure­thra than a total­ly round cross-​section would; b‑Vibe's fist­ing dil­do evad­ed the most eas­i­ly irri­tat­ed area on my front wall.

They. Knew. What. They. Were. Doing.

Sure, the big hol­low along the fist­ing dildo's palm, under where the pinky and thumb squeeze togeth­er, doesn't match the crevass­es of how I would fold my hand. Imagine hold­ing water in your cupped hand. It's kind of like that, if sil­i­cone filled in where the water was, mak­ing the reser­voir wider and shallower.

But that's by design.

This fist­ing fanat­ic loves it, espe­cial­ly on the silky mat­te surface.

My per­son­al lube rec­om­men­da­tion: Wicked Simply Aqua or Hybrid Jelle for vagi­nal use. It's thick­er for less drip­ping. Hypothetically, you can use coconut oil anal­ly, but that's not in my wheel­house, and I can­not advise on that from per­son­al experience.

Do not use pure sil­i­cone lube with sil­i­cone dil­dos — which brings me to my next point.

A body-safe silicone fisting dildo

I love that this fist­ing dil­do is body-​safe — mean­ing it's easy to clean, chem­i­cal­ly inert for spicy ses­sions, and will last for years and years.

(The mechan­i­cal parts might break down faster, but the sil­i­cone is top-​tier. There's also a big­ger, non-​vibrating ver­sion, for when you're ready to ramp up.)

Big dil­dos in high-​quality mate­ri­als are a giv­en on my blog, but not every toy man­u­fac­tur­er meets that stan­dard. b‑Vibe does.

When it comes to your health — and some­thing with a size­able sur­face area going inside you — it's worth invest­ing in the best.

(But also, even with the high-​quality mate­ri­als, I still said "Wow!" when I first talked to b‑Vibe's rep­re­sen­ta­tive and asked about the MSRP.)

After try­ing this fist­ing dil­do, I can't unknow how smooth fist­ing warm-​up can be. But don't be fooled — easy begin­nings can still lead to ecsta­t­ic overwhelm.

Firmness for stability, comfort, and vibrations

The exterior construction

Again, the shape is nice­ly smoothed out, which melds well with the silicone's firm­ness — mak­ing this dil­do eas­i­er to ride when the "fore­arm" doesn't col­lapse under my weight.

There's a bal­ance here: you might want a big fist­ing dil­do to be for­giv­ing and not too hard. It can flex a lit­tle at the wrist. But it can't be so flop­py that it has folds under the walls’ pres­sure. I think b‑Vibe nailed that — at least, for those already used to big insertions.

b‑Vibe's 10.5" vibrat­ing hand dil­do might not do all the work for you — the firm­ness took me some effort to go from zero to a whole hand — but its mas­sag­ing motor cer­tain­ly helps the user relax. OMG.

Overall, yes, it's beginner-​friendly with some caveats. If you need some­thing super soft, shop Uberrime or Dee's Big Daddies and select the 0030 sil­i­cone option.

The vibration quality

This vibrat­ing fist­ing dil­do is pointy and firm enough at the fin­ger­tips to focus vibra­tions so I can have a quick­ie cli­toral orgasm before hand-​banging — which, in turn, helps me relax. Honestly, the vibra­tions were a smidge bet­ter than I expect­ed, and they trav­el through the sil­i­cone sur­pris­ing­ly well.

My frame of ref­er­ence: b‑Vibe's vibrat­ing butt plugs tend to have deep vibra­tions for what they are — not nec­es­sar­i­ly pow­er­ful, but mod­er­ate weight, soooo sen­su­al, and they make me cum quick­ly. I under­stand that your mileage may vary and that I'm just built dif­fer­ent­ly, though.

Choose from 4 speeds and 6 pat­terns on the fist­ing dil­do. 2 hours of charge give you 1 hour of play time. Yes, the pat­terns add vari­ety, but any of the vibra­tion set­tings can get me off when the sil­i­cone shape and size do most of the work for me — via pres­sure against my inter­nal cli­toris.

If you need stronger vibra­tions, con­sid­er a dil­do by Dee's Big Daddies with a Vac-​U-​Lock port for slot­ting the Blush Limited Addiction bullet.

(Please charge your vibrat­ing fist­ing hand dil­do before use. I con­tem­plat­ed my life choic­es, such as: should I crab­walk to the near­est out­let with the toy still inside me?)

FISTING DILDO: FUCKING FERAL IN USE

Yes, even with my goril­la grip coochie. Especially with my goril­la grip coochie.

They. Knew. What. They. Were. Doing.

While the back of the hand feels smoothed out, the edges along the pinky and thumb's metacarpals press along some of my walls' tens­est spots, mak­ing me cum so hard, espe­cial­ly when twisting.

Tapping and turn­ing on vibra­tions made me cum again and again. The over­whelm­ing girth already brings me to the edge, and any added vibra­tion or jos­tle takes it to "forced orgasm" territory.

I had many stages of paus­ing, just nudg­ing what­ev­er I could fit. I breathed deep, focus­ing more on enjoy­ment than get­ting the whole hand inside — and was pleas­ant­ly sur­prised when it all popped in.

Twist it. Wrap your walls around the wrist. Clench on it. Thrust it behind the cervix. (I can do that and savor the sen­sa­tion, but as always, many peo­ple don't like cer­vi­cal pres­sure. Your mileage may vary; exper­i­ment with angling so it's not super centered.)

Paying attention to the little details

Again, the design­ers of this vibrat­ing hand dil­do knew what they were doing.

The tri­an­gu­lar suc­tion cup base and ori­en­ta­tion node mean you can know which way the hand is fac­ing by look­ing at or feel­ing the base alone. That's use­ful in the dark or with a partner.

There's also a bal­ance between the base's flex­i­bil­i­ty and its sta­bil­i­ty. It's stur­dy when suction-​cupped to a sur­face, but bendy enough to use an O‑ring to strap or mount your fist­ing dil­do for more sta­bil­i­ty than suc­tion cup pres­sure alone.

(Could you strap it on and thrust it? Sure, if you find a well-​fitting har­ness. It might be unwieldy using your hips alone, though.)

The tri­an­gu­lar base mea­sures 3.2” across the widest por­tion, so keep that in mind if you're, say, pop­ping it onto a fuck­ing machine dock­ing plate.

And at the price for the qual­i­ty you get? I'll say it again: Wow! Chef's kiss. Body-​safe sil­i­cone and ride­able and vibrat­ing. We love it!

TL;DR: Is b-Vibe's vibrating hand dildo friendly for fisting beginners?

Oh, yes. I love that they put thought into so many lit­tle things that can make fist­ing chal­leng­ing, and smoothed them out — some­times literally.

Assuming some­one has already tried their share of big inserta­bles, I'd say yes, the b‑Vibe 10.5" sil­i­cone vibrat­ing hand dil­do is fan­tas­tic for some­one just start­ing fisting:

• It's just a lit­tle small­er than my hand
• It's mild­ly for­giv­ing, but firm enough to ride
• The way it's fold­ed lets the lube stay in place with min­i­mal drip­ping along the mat­te sil­i­cone surface
• The knuck­les are smoothed out for more grad­ual taper­ing and easy insertion
• The vibra­tions trans­fer well through the sil­i­cone and can be used cli­toral­ly as a warm-​up and take the expe­ri­ence from “over­whelmed” to "orbitofrontal cor­tex tem­porar­i­ly shut down."

Take 10% the b‑Vibe vibrat­ing fist­ing sil­i­cone hand dil­do at Horny Stoner — a shop also run by a sex edu­ca­tor, by the way — or get the big­ger fist­ing dil­do with­out vibrations.

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