Category: Kink & Banter

The Polite Way to Break Up (With Your Therapist) 1

The Polite Way to Break Up (With Your Therapist)

It's not easy to share your dark­est thoughts with some­one and trust that they'll under­stand — let alone advise with a har­mo­nious bal­ance between accep­tance and growth. And when a ther­a­pist doesn't hear you out, it takes only a minute…

How to "Date Yourself" 2

How to "Date Yourself"

After British Vogue inter­viewed Emma Watson, the media fix­at­ed on the 20 sec­onds where she talked about being sin­gle and "self-​​partnered." It was a con­ver­sa­tion where she spoke about men­tal health, her place in the world as an activist, history…

4 Common Misconceptions About Sex-Positive Bloggers 3

4 Common Misconceptions About Sex-Positive Bloggers

When I reveal that I'm a sex toy review­er, I some­times hear vari­a­tions of "Really?! But you're so quiet/wholesome/[insert anoth­er syn­onym for demure]!" On a bad day, I might clap back, "I'm sor­ry— I didn't real­ize that intro­ver­sion meant not…

How to Cast a DIY Silicone Dildo at Home 4

How to Cast a DIY Silicone Dildo at Home

If you're a reg­u­lar read­er of my blog, you prob­a­bly already agree that dil­dos can be high­ly col­lectible pieces of art. They're func­tion­al tools, but it sure as hell helps me get excit­ed when I find a dil­do aes­thet­i­cal­ly pleasing.…

My Past Sexy Side Hustles & Free Stuff (Beyond Reviews!) 5

My Past Sexy Side Hustles & Free Stuff (Beyond Reviews!)

In the cur­rent gig econ­o­my, you've prob­a­bly heard Millennial femme friends joke about sug­ar baby­ing, finan­cial dom­i­na­tion, or sell­ing used panties to pay off stu­dent loans. Or just for extra spend­ing mon­ey. It's not a myth— there's no short­age of…

4 Countries Where Traveling With or Buying Sex Toys Is Illegal 6

4 Countries Where Traveling With or Buying Sex Toys Is Illegal

SEX BLOGGING COMES WITH PERKS LIKE JACKING OFF FOR WORK, BUT DOWNSIDES LIKE TRAVEL LIMITATIONS. THE RIGHT TO BUY SEX TOYS IS ONE THAT I ADMITTEDLY TAKE FOR GRANTED. It's not a minor priv­i­lege. Without dil­dos, I couldn't effec­tive­ly massage…

4 Great Reasons to Consider Hiring an Escort 13

4 Great Reasons to Consider Hiring an Escort

An escort's job is to make fan­tasies hap­pen, immers­ing clients in the expe­ri­ence. It often goes beyond phys­i­cal grat­i­fi­ca­tion to include psy­cho­log­i­cal cap­ti­va­tion and emo­tion­al com­fort. And for that, I have mad respect for their skill sets. Here are four…

Why I Don't Hunt For "Unicorns" / FFM Threesomes 15

Why I Don't Hunt For "Unicorns" / FFM Threesomes

Given a long enough time­line, prac­ti­cal­ly every straight dude I've been with has asked me for: an FFM three­some, espe­cial­ly with one of my (unspec­i­fied) cis female friends butt stuff, but with only me receiv­ing My response to the for­mer used…

STIs & What I Wish More People Knew About Them 17

STIs & What I Wish More People Knew About Them

[Content warn­ing: this post con­tains rec­ol­lec­tion of sex­u­al assault. If that's a hard top­ic for you, skip #5.] I wish we talked about chlamy­dia the way we talk about strep throat. It's not the infec­tion that ter­ri­fies peo­ple — a…

3 Reasons I Want More Body Mods 18

3 Reasons I Want More Body Mods

New Year's res­o­lu­tions should be fun! The more high-​​spirited you are about them, the more like­ly you are to keep them. Fortunately, mod­i­fy­ing one's appear­ance can be just as fun as show­ing off the results after­ward. 1. Setting aside a…

A guide to organizing your sex tools for easy access and fun presentation!

5 Ways to Optimize Sex Toy Storage & Organization!

Back in 2018, I had the free­dom to dis­play what I (at the time thought) was a met­ric fuck­ton of toys. Times have changed a lot: I have way more now! But I have fond mem­o­ries of the built-​​in bookshelf…

Facebook detox: unplugging from social media as a form of self-care 19

Facebook detox: unplugging from social media as a form of self-care

Social media detox­ing can be a rad­i­cal self-​​care step in today's hyper-​​connected world. Of course, I'm hard­ly the first to say that. Telling some­one to quit Facebook (or just cut down) is kind of like telling them to med­i­tate, express…