Vibrating Cock Rings 101: A Guide For Vagina-Owners

When I moved to a new state, one of the first things I did was check out a near­by sex shop. There, my boyfriend and I found a cock ring on clear­ance and I leaped at the chance to try some­thing new.

The Remoji Lifeguard's vibra­tions were okay— a lit­tle on the buzzy side, with an okay amount of pow­er in a tiny pack­age. One but­ton cycles through the set­tings, though you can only adjust vibra­tion speed on the (gim­micky) remote con­trol phone app.

The ring vibe itself pleas­ant­ly sur­prised me with how com­pact it was and how well it fit with my anatomy.

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What do vibrating cock rings do?

Most notably, a vibrat­ing cock ring is one of many ways to incor­po­rate cli­toral vibra­tion into penis-​in-​vagina inter­course. Many peo­ple with vul­vas need exter­nal stim­u­la­tion to reach orgasm. If the motor is pow­er­ful enough, a vibrat­ing cock ring can also deliv­er inter­nal vibra­tions to the vagina-​wielder by mak­ing the wearer's penis vibrate.

And cock rings in gen­er­al (even the non-​vibrating ones) help main­tain blood flow in an erec­tion, keep­ing it hard­er and for poten­tial­ly longer. When worn around the balls, it can also help the wear­er come harder.

It seems intu­itive enough. Just slip it on and pro­ceed with inter­course, right? But don't expect it to do all the work for you; a cock ring is just a tool. Here's a quick 101 for get­ting the most out of the experience.

Choosing a vibrating cock ring to suit your preferences

A cock ring needs to fit the penis com­fort­ably, but that's not the only thing that mat­ters! Do you want one to make the wearer's penis vibrate, or do you want a cock ring for exter­nal cli­toral vibration?

Powerful vibrating cock rings

If you want a cock ring to make the wearer's penis vibrate, that's pret­ty straight­for­ward: get one that's pow­er­ful enough. The Picobong Remoji Lifeguard had enough pow­er for my boyfriend and me, but it's a lit­tle buzzy and not for everyone.

If you want some­thing rum­bli­er, try the We-​Vibe Pivot or Je Joue Mio. The Pivot's cen­ter is slight­ly con­toured to fit between the labia on one face, while its edges on the oth­er side are sharp­er for grind­ing against at an angle.

Or, if you want the gold stan­dard of rum­ble, you could replace the bul­let that comes with Tantus's Super Soft C‑Ring with a We-​Vibe Tango. Just be aware that rum­bli­er vibes are bulki­er than gen­tle ones. The weight makes them more like­ly to rotate dur­ing use, and they may need adjust­ing. As well, the Hot Octopuss Atom is VERY pow­er­ful but thick, mean­ing I can't use as much of my partner's penis length as I would like.

A vibrating cock ring for pinpoint stimulation

Want a cock ring for exter­nal vibra­tion but don't care for broad clit stim? No prob­lem! Unlike the usu­al flat-​faced vibrat­ing cock rings, the VeDO Roq has a raised body and a tiny bump for tar­get­ed, pre­cise stimulation.

Vibrating cock rings for longer clit-​vag gaps

Consider that not every­one has the same dis­tance between their cli­toris and vagi­na. Know thy­self— most cock rings are made to fit clit-​vag gaps of less than an inch. For exam­ple, the longer side of the Remoji Lifeguard vibe is about 1.25" long.

If your clit-​vag gap is longer than an inch, an average-​sized ring vibra­tor won't align with your exter­nal cli­toris. Some cock rings with big­ger vibe com­part­ments include the Tenga Smart Vibe Ring and the Screaming O Work-It.

Tips for using a vibrating cock ring

Use short thrusts above all else

Most vibrat­ing cock rings break cli­toral con­tact (one excep­tion is the Svakom Tyler, angled for eas­i­ly apply­ing extra pres­sure) as you pull back, so deep pen­e­tra­tion with short strokes and rock­ing motions work best. Lucky for me, that's how I like thrust­ing any­way. It means that my partner's penis stays in con­tact with my cervix for longer and mas­sages it.

I most­ly think of the vibe as an exten­sion of my partner's junk. Where I might oth­er­wise grind my cli­toris against his pubic bone, I'd place the cock ring vibe and grind against that. The motion is the same (and fun even with­out vibra­tions, to be fair).

Experiment with cock ring positioning during foreplay

The most obvi­ous place to put a cock ring is at the base of the penis. However, that doesn't mean you have to keep the vibra­tor in one place!

For one, even though you can place the vibe against the wearer's balls, that doesn't appeal to every­one. The main area where my boyfriend finds vibra­tions most sen­su­al is just under his frenu­lum.

So to warm up, we enjoyed start­ing off grind­ing with the vibra­tor between his frenu­lum and my clit. From there, we wrapped the cock ring under his frenu­lum and start­ed tip drilling while I clenched. And If I'm on top, I could also lean back and have his penis's tip press against my G‑spot.

Try grinding with the vibe off-center

Let's say you don't mind broad­ly spread vibra­tions for warm­ing up, but pin­point pres­sure is what push­es you over the edge. And you have a flat cock ring vibe. In that case, you don't have to keep the broad sur­face cen­tered on your clitoris.

Turn it slight­ly, so your clit aligns with the vibe's edge. That way, the vibra­tions are more con­cen­trat­ed, and you can tar­get the pres­sure if there's a dis­tinct edge (some rings vibes don't). Swaying side-​to-​side with the ring placed like this, com­bined with deep pen­e­tra­tion, is my favorite way to use a ring vibe.

Experiment and find what works for you!

I had nev­er used a vibrat­ing cock ring before, so I want­ed to share some­thing short and sweet about my first expe­ri­ence with one. etting the Remoji Lifeguard on clear­ance was a sol­id choice to spice things up–— well-​deserved after a long week of set­tling in our new city.